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im 14/f
my mom and my uncle have been very close he iis older but my mom has always taked care of him he recently moved back to mexico and isnt planning to come back anytime soon (i live in houston) we have family in mexico but we dont visit alot twice a year at the most so my ucle lived very close to our house so he practically lived in our house he just went to his house to sleep and shower
he was like a second dad to me more than my real one actually hed drive me to my karate lessons early in the morning and he drove me to school and hed go to football games with me hed babysitt me and my nephews he treated us like we were his own so it affects me to
back to my question my moms been drinking since he left which has been for like a month and a half now she doesnt get drunk but she never drinks so its hard for me to see her drinking and im scared that shell get depressed and start drinking heavilly one day (she drinks crown royal and coke'whatever you call that)
ive gone through hard imes with her before but she never drank
ive gone through hard times with my dad (drinking problems)he still drinks just not as much as before
(counceling isnt an option so dont mention that plz i know its the best thing but just dont mention that)
im now in high school and im facing harder problems in school and this isnt one that i want to deal with so plz help thanx!!!
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I've been through something like that before, so I know how you feel in a way. Have you talked to your mom about her drinking? If not, talk to her alone and tell her how you feel. That you're worried about her, and you need her around. Drinking is a serious problem, especially when it involves depression. It is a depressant itself.
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I am so sorry you're going through this ordeal. Drinking is a suppresant for most people and that is why they turn to it. There are several things you can do:
1. Get rid of all the beers and such in your house...other than expensive champaignes and wines. Just get rid of beers. And cigarettes if they have it. And when your mom and dad start to freak out ask them what they would do if you began to drink?What if you became an alcoholic? Do they know that kids who have parents that drink are more likely to become alcoholics in the future then kid's parents who don't drink?
2. Get your uncle back there pronto and have him talk with your mom. explain to your uncle what's happening and that you can't deal with any of these things.
3. Go to the counslor and get support or help. Although it isn't the best idea.
In the end, just talk to your mom. Tell her and show her how much this is affecting you and that you're always there to listen and support her and that you want to be the one she turns to. Not the alcohol. Tell her that you're afraid that she's going to do something stupid or get really depressed. Go online and search all the cons of drinking and show them to her.
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i dont know what to say really but try to talk to your mom about it or tell your uncle secretly if your mom dosent want him to know thats all i can say srry if this isnt a good idea.
If you need me for something my e-mail address is mabe.cp@hotmail.com
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