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My Own Personal Royal Doggy.
I'm 14/f and I'm a freshman at my high school. The problem is one of my "friends" let's call her Tina. Well, I've known her since the beginning of 8th grade and we were cool back then. I didn't reall know her but I thought she was nice and funny. But as our friendship progress that changed. She was so clingy saying I love you, You're my bestest friend for life! We have to be best friends FOREVER! And she was so freakishly self centered that it wasn't even funny. She cares about NO ONE but herself. If she did something wrong, she would blame someone else or make everyone feel guilty that they HAD to forgive her or THEY became the bad person. She is a scene and a emo poser as well as a druggie and a cutter. She think her life is so bad when it isn't. She's the only child so she gets whatever she wants, gets to do whatever she wants and everything with: whatever she wants in it. She "cuts" which are like paper cuts and no more and less sometimes. She would go around in gym screaming should I cut or not?! I'm like TINA SHUT UP! And she thinks shes a durggie because she's done drug ONCE. And it wasn't een serious and she ahted the feeling and vowed to never do it again. Keep that in mind for the next statement I will make: Whenever she doesn't get what she wants, she would go into another place and pretend to cut and my friends will go chasing after her to make her feel better while I'm left alone--and I won't go to comfort her anymore because I'm SICK of it. I mean I don't mind if she does it once in a while but everytime my friends and she and I meet, it's always the same. She needs ALL the attention and frankly, I'm tired of it and it's annoying. She would always hug me, claim me as her PROPERTY, she won't let me sit with anyone but her at lunch...the only way I can sit with my other friends is if I somehow get free from her gripping my shirt in the middle of the cafeteria, she hugs me, she acts like a BABY. And with what I said above know this: she has SERIOUS hygene problems. She never brushes her teeth. She takes a shower once a week. Deoderant is her shower. She changes her clothes..eh maybe 2-3 days..I mean it's disgustiong and her hugging me in public, rolling in my bed, holding my hand. UHG. Now that is not the only reason adnI know that what I just say is shallow but come on! I can't deal with this. I want to just break off the friendship with her. I'm sick of it. But if I do, my friends WILL turn against me, the class we are in together will be chaotic, and etc etc. And another thing, she just got back srugery and that would make me look REALLY bad if I break of the friendship with her now. WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH THIS TINA!!!
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talk to her about it.
tell her what she's doing is stupid. obviously she wants the attention. when she goes on and on about her cutting herself, ignore her. if no one pays attention to her, she wont do it anymore.
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You need to talk to her, if she has a hygene problem, tell her, she might not realise, it's best you tell her than she finds out from people talking about her. The calling herself a druggie, well maybe she feels as if she needs to exaggerate her life to make people like her? To be honest it sounds like all she wants is attention, and you need to tell her that she is not going the right way about it. Try to do it tactfully, otherwise people may feel like you're the bad person. Good luck. xx
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Hey,
i'm really sorry the talking didn't help. Maybe she just doesn't want to hear it...yet.
I don't think you are a bad person, you obviousely cared enough to salvage your relationship and write a monster email ; )
Your talk might take time to sink in - if you are still friends give her time and take some time for yourself as well - really important!
Don't go all out to avoide her but don' suck up either, be kind and honest, keep it cool for a while. One of you will eventually open up or go your seperate way.
Chin up.
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