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my mom has a drug problem
my mom has a pot problem.
i dont know, it really bugs me and its taking a toll on me. i dont knwo what to do, and she doesnt know i know, ive known since 3rd grade, now in 9th. we live in a very high scale town.
i feel like peopel will look at me differntly or soemthing.
only my bestfriend, best guy friend and my cousin, know about it.
-i feel liek i have troubling opening my feelings up to people from it.(i know it's cheesy.)
- and its causing me to be in really pissed off mood, or really depressed, i want to help her, but i can never get the words out when i just want to scream at her about it.
what can i do?
how can i confront her?
you dont knoow how much this will mean if you help me.
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I think your really stong for dealing with that for such a long time. i think you need to say something like i hate when people smoke! or something next time you see someone and be like Mom did you ever smoke like in college or at school? and just like hear what she says..if she lies then tell her what you know and see what she says..how can she ever get mad at you for looking out for her? This is gonna help her so much and you. you'll finally beable to be at peace with this..and you NEED to tell her. Nothing will change if you dont do something about it. I hope i helped Good luck with everything
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I admire how stong you must be for holding this from everyone and dealing with this for years.
You are right, you shouldn't keep it in because it will take a toll on you and you're not the one with the problem. You'll end up being stressed about it and the last thing you need is more stress. I know it's hard because you're afraid of people's reaction. If your told your friends and neighbors I can't say that everyone won't judge your mom, sometimes people just don't get it. We live in a world of superficial and judgemental people. Not everone is going to accept this. This is why you shouldn't tell them. You would need to tell a conselor or professional. All information is kept confidential.
Before you talk to them you need to talk to your mom. Then you can make the decison after you talk to your mom if you want to tell someone else or not. But first, it's important to try to understand why she's doing pot.
Many people turn to drugs because that's a way of coping. They do it to get away from problems, relax, to have more self-acceptance, to aviod being bored ...etc.
Rather than getting mad about it you need to maintain a calm voice and talk openly about it. Put yourself in her place. You wouldn't want a huge yelling lecture about how stupid you are for doing drugs, right? You need to just come striaght out and say you know that she has a problem and you want to talk to her about it. You can explain the reason you're bringing it up is because you love her so much and if it continues she could become addicted. And addiction would lead to severe behavior, criminal consequences, and be crucial to her health. It's one of the worst ways of dealing with problems. You could mention that there are other, natural ways to deal with stress rather than this.
Let her speak for awhile and listen to her side and add comments that you feel would be most appropriate. If she is unresponsive or gets upset you need to let her know that you will get her help if it continues to get severe and progress.
Be sure to get help for yourself about coping with your mom if you feel that you need it too. It's what they are there for.
Don't just let this problem go because it could result being worse and you need ot get yourself and your family out of this situation.
Good luck sweetie! I am so sorry you have to go through this right now...let me know if there is anything I can do.
You can always go here for more information too. www.premiercounselling.co.uk
-Shannon
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i dont usually answer questions truthfully but this one ill give it a shot. i would just confront her right away and talk about it with her. 6 years is a long time to wait. i wouldnt try to hide the situation from everyone or that would make matters worse. I would be open about the situation and talk about it. It may seem like a hard thing to do at first, but youll find after a while it will ultimately settle things.
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