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I'm losing my best friend!
This guy, Mark, was my best friend last year. We would call each other all the time, talk on IM, and we kept in touch over the summer. When school started, I thought everything between us would be like it was last year. I guess he had different plans. He does not say one word to me! He doesn't even look at me and it really upsets me. I didn't do anything to make him mad at me. Over the summer, I think he changed. He sits near me at lunch and I can hear some of the things he says and it makes me wonder why I was ever his friend. He's not the kind of guy who you can just talk to about things and expect him to be sympathetic. I don't understand! How do I get my friend back?
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yeah guys can be weird. they can be really nine one day and really mean the next. I guess its sorta their wway of maturing. try not to take it offensively. It probably isnt your fault. But if you really want him to stay your friend, say "hey" once in a while. If he doesnt say anything back then dont take it personally. Don't act angry with him or try to give him the silent treatment because often guys dont notice. I think the best thing for you to do tho is to give him the space he needs. One day he will probably come back to you and when that happens you should be happy. And then you will probably find out that it was an misunderstanding. I'm not sure if you ment by "He's not the kind of guy who you can just talk to about things and expect him to be sympathetic." but if that means that you cant talk to him about whats going on between you to then maybe he isnt the greatest frined in the first place. isnt that sorta the definition of friend? But if thats not what you ment, then you should talk to him. and talk to him abut how you think that he's changed and maybe he can do something about it. I dont know if any of this will help, but I want you to know that you probably didnt do anything wrong so it isnt your fault. its his loss you soun like a great person. good luck!!
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ive had a lot of expirence with that actually, honestly the best thing you can do is to just talk to him about. call him up and ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. and judging by his response you'll be able to tell if he really changed or not. pretend that nothing is wrong, and you guys are still just really good friends.
and then once you guys hang out..ask him why you never really see or talk to him anymore. just be really sweet. but you will definetly be able to tell if anything went wrong in the friendship by his response. :)
alright.........so honestly. you just need to be straight up with him and ask him what his deal is.
maybe hes waiting on you to ask him because hes got something hes hidding. like he wants to tell you something or for you to notice something. you never know. seriously straight up ask him.
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