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what is considered fat ?
i have a friend who thinks everyone is fat. the girls she thinks are fat i dont think are fat at all. i think they are beautiful girls. their bodies arent perfect ... but whatever i dont think theres much of a difference between a size 3 and a size 8. i told her some people have more muscle and others are just skinnier. if someone has a pretty flat stomach but has little lovehandles and are liek a size 3 she thinks thats fat. i dont even wanna know what she thinks about me. i have bigger legs but they are mostly muscle. my stomach isnt flat but its definately not fat either. im pretty comfortable with how i look, but it bothers me how shes so negative about everyones bodies. what exactly IS considered fat?
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There is no general rule for "fat". What some people find fat, others done. There are people who find larger people gorgeous, fat, attractive, not. Then there are people who find someone whos skin and bones either attractive or "fat" (In the eyes of an anorexic) It all depends on whos perspective it is. personally, I think your friend isnt comfortable with how she looks, and doesnt know how to cope with that, or want it to show. Her way of dealing with it would be making a negative statement towards someone who is bigger than her. (not much, but just a decent ammount) In doing this, she will gain some sort oof self esteem because she knows that when shes feeling down she can think, "well.. so and so is bigger than me.. so i dont have much to worry about". Either that or she has the mind of an anorexic and sees people who are small, to be bigger than they really are. I think you and your friend just have different perceptions of beauty. Shes very critical, whereas you dont care either way. People are people, thats how I think of it as.
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Fat is a subjective term, usually people who classify those who really aren't that fat are very insecure and have no idea what the hell they are talking about.
As a rule of thumb...someone more than 20-30 lbs the average weight for their height/age and carrying more than 20-25% of bodyfat. This is too subjective though so it really just depends on your opinion.
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I don't know quite what is considered fat. I've always been of the mind that 'fat' is when your weight starts to negatively affect your life, your movement, and your health.
I do have a pretty good idea of what the words 'judgmental' and 'bitch' mean though.
I'm sorry, I recognize she is your friend and listening to a friend's opinion is one thing, but listening to them rip into other people for sport is another thing completely.
If your friend is enjoying insulting other people because of their weight, you have no reason to listen to it. Not just because you disagree with her, but because even if you did agree with her, it is an unnecessarily cruel thing to discuss. Ask her to stop. If she wont, remove yourself from the conversation.
Don't ever let her be the little voice that tells you you are not good enough and don't promote her being that voice for anyone else either.
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