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My mother and I dont get along. & No matter what I do I try soo hard to get along with her but its too hard. I'm 14 and born and raised in America. But she was born in the Philippines so she has a different out look on everything...
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I completely understand what you're going through. Im 15, born in canada and my mom was born in trinidad. Something I always try with my mom, is find something, and I mean search really hard for something we both enjoy and look forward too. something we can count on doing whether it be once a week or everyday. My experience is, my mother absolutely loves icecream, and so do I. We also happen to enjoy murder mysteries and crime shows, so you mix the two and you have a girls night! This may not be for you, but what I'm trying to say is this: It's easy to lose your patience and at times you may feel like you've tried everything and nothing seems to work. For the last two years my mom and I would fight a lot, but I talked to her about how she was brought up and I didn't only have an understanding of where she was coming from, but realized that it's what she knows. So even though our parents seem really difficult and like they just don't get it, Think about yourself in their situation, it probably isnt easy. Talk to your mom about how you feel, and explain to her YOUR situation. If you're calm and mature about it she'll listen. writing a letter is always powerful too. There's no doubt that you love your mom or else you wouldn't be trying so hard to get along. I'm sure she wants things between you guys to work and I hope everything works out for you. JUst keep this in mind: Through good and bad your mom will be there and she loves you more than you can imagine, parents are very special You only get one of each in this world.
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I think that you need to accept your differences in culture. She is still your Mum so you will still have things in common. You are also at an age where life is generally confusing and there are many people your age without cultural differences that will feel the same.
We all have to go through a period of adjustment when we move from childhood to young adulthood. You may find that as you getting older things will settle down and you will begin to get along better with her.
It is not unusual for this to occur when you hit your mid-teens and you should not worry too much about it. At the moment you will have to accept her rules and the way she runs her home, but before you know it, you will be able to run your own home and life the way you want it to be.
I wish you all the best and hope I have managed to help you a bit.
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