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oh my.
there is this girl at school that is completely intolerable. she constantly brags about her wealth, her popularity, blah blah blah & oh my god she LIES about everything. basically...i hate her. anyway...her & my best friend have always been really close. recently my best friend has been ditching me COMPLETELY to hang out with this obnoxious girl. this girl has totally changed my best friend into a clone of herself. what can i do to make my friend aware of this. she is stuck WAY up this girls ass & she's changing for the worst. it breaks my heart. ]:
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wow. that IS obnoxious.
well there are several options.
1. give up on her. If she's going to get so easily influenced and can't even tell when she's being a total ass, then maybe it's time to move on. Of course this is probably the last thing you want to do because from your description you two sound very close.
2. smile even if it hurts. maybe you'll be in a class with her that the other girl isn't in. act nice to her, like nothing's wrong. Maybe she'll notice compared to the way you treat her and the way she acts, there's something wrong.
3. act like her. treat her like she treats you. Childish, yes, but hopefully effective. Sooner or later she's going to ask you why you've been so obnoxious to her, and just ask her same thing. It might backfire if she's incredibly stubborn and is really blind to the fact that she's acting like a clone.
4. talk to her. but whatever you do, DO NOT tell her straight out that she's acting like a clone. She'll get offended before denying and hating you forever. though it's the harsh harsh truth, she sounds like she probably won't appreciate it. if you really need to talk to her. try comparing her and her friend subtly. Ask about the other girl and then ask the same questions to her. try to let her see how similar she's become to that girl.
5. try to get her back. invite her over. ask her to hang out. maybe she'll return to her old self if she's around you enough. if she denies it, get one of the girls that are still her friends to "throw a party" and show up. you can even offer to throw the whole party yourself but just use the other girls name if she's trying to avoid you. She's still your best friend, so use every oppurtunity you have to try and get her to remember that.
I've just been listing options for you cause I'm here for advice not for decision making. it's your problem, so you're the most suited for the final decision. Good luck.
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One day she will grow up and see her life for what it is and people will see her for what she is. If you tell your friend who she should hang out with or be like you are as bad as the other girl.
The best way is to stay 'nice'. Don't say anything bad or be nasty as your friend will think you are just jealous etc - and scared of being abandoned, rejected by your friend?
If she is as bad as you say she is and your friend is smart, she will soon tire of being a clone and come running to you for sanity - but not if you act like the other girl.
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