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a kid with autisim
hey there is this boy at school named chad and he is 17 like me and he is autistic I have no problem with him being autistic becouse I know he can't help it and he was just born that way,but he follows me everywhere and I can 't get him to leave me alone and iam afraid he's going to ask me to the school prom,but I want to find a nice way to turn him down gently without hurting his feelings should I say can we just be friends or what and how can I get him to stop following me without hurting his feelings becouse I know it will be hard to say no becouse he's autistic and chad dosn't really understand what the word no means please help me!
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Ok First of all if he is autistic then he is obviously either very high functioning or has a type of Autism called aspergers syndrome. This is important to know the difference. If he has Aspergers then it affects socialization and his ability to understand and read social cues. If this is the case then you need to be very clear with him, he will understand as long as you speak in black and white leaving no room for him to interpret anything. Tell him " when you follow me around it makes me uncomfortable please stop. We can talk once a day at break for 5 minutes" being this clear will HELP him now and in the future. I can promise you that he does not want to be defined by his disease and this will be a learning experience for him and not hurt him. He may need clarification and if you need "backup" talk to a counsellor at your school.
He honestly does not know that he is doing anything wrong, worry less about his feelings now and more about his future feelings when his habits could get him into serious trouble!
If you have more questions about this feel free to ask as I studied and work with clients with autism/developmentally delayed and mental health.
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Well, at school shouldn't he be with a Superviser (sp)?
If he is, you could kindly tell the person that He's fallowing you around & you don't really like it.
But for the dance, Tell him you guys can go as friends, as the girl who answered first suggested.
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well for the part of turning him down gently you could say that you like him better as a friends because if you two go to the prom it might be akward afterwards. You could always try to talk to a guidance counsler and say to them im not trying to sound mean but i really dont like chad following me around and i was wondering if you could talk to him about it. because if it comes from an adult it would be easier for him to understand i think. and he would be more likely to not follow you around.
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You can talk to him yourself and you could say that you dont really like him following you around and it makes you uncomferatble. Tell him that anyone following you around would. Try and tell him that sometimes you just need space and tell him that you still want to be friends and all cause you think hes a great guy but you just dont want to be followed around..
hope this helped and good luck!!
♥ kayla
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if he asks you, you don't have to say no. say "sure, let's go as friends." if he says he wants to be more, tell him that your friendship is so important and that you would like to continue being friends. You can still be friends with him, without hurting me.
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