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My husband and I are very much in love. We also have a 3 year old daughter. Now, my question is, how can we still have sex without getting a surprise? My attention is always on her and she constantly wakes up during the night. A problem is that we live in NY, and not a single family member lives here, so we don't have any help. All advice is appreciated, thank you!
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love your daughter. dont be jelous of her. it wasnt her fault that she's alive now. dont complain of her waking up at night. thats what kids do. but not to worry, she'll be over it soon.
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I would suggest that you leave the TV on her favorite cartoons and if they wake up they will get in to the cartoon.and they will fall back asleep.Its Guarented to work
hope i helped
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My daughter usually sleeps through the nights now, but before she did, we had a little game we played to insure some "personal" time.
I would tell her that if she could stay in bed for however long (half hour, hour), I'd come check on her. If she was still awake afterwards, we'd read a favorite book or rock in the chair. If she was asleep when I came to check on her, she would get an extra-special treat the next day (McDonald's breakfast, trip to the park).
Once that started working, she would only get a special little treat if she stayed in bed all night. Sometimes I'd let her stay up a little late for popcorn and a movie if she promised to stay in bed. But then if she got up, I'd put one of her bed-time toys in "time-out" all night. The toy didn't get out until she spent a whole night in bed.
I had an idea I was about to try but I never had to, since she started staying in bed. We would've kept a big jar. Everytime she slept a whole night, she'd get a white poker chip. Any time she got up only once she's get a red chip. If she got up more than once, she'd lose a chip evertime she got up. Then at the end of the week, she could cash in her poker chips. The more chips the bigger the reward, until she gets a jar with all white chips, when she would get a HUGE reward...like trip to the zoo.
I hope one of those works for you! Good luck.
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hello! well i agree to get a lock on the door and it might be a good idea to let your daughter know that you are fine.....beause when i was a little girl i would do the same thing and i would think my mom moaning meant she was hurt or in trouble...haha but when se gets a little older you should definatley teach her....or maybe if you have a adventourous sex life you can try having sex in other places..its always hot to unexpectadly slip in a quicke...that could spice things up
good luck
<3
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I would just try and [ if there already isn't one on it ] just lock the door. And as your daughter gets a little older, maybe even try teaching her now, that she can't enter the parents room whenever it is shut unless she knocks or asks. Also whenever you two want to try and have a romantic evening, maybe try and call a friend and ask her if she can watch your kid for awhile and maybe have a play date with their kids. Or, hire a babysitter and have her watch your kid for you. I hope I helped. <3
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Well hmm. If you don't want to get a lock for your door, or if you have one then just lock it. Give her something to do that she can do on her own, like coloring, and tell her you'll be back in a few minutes. Hopefully that will work. Hope I helped.Happy Summer :)
-Brina
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Put a lock on your bedroom door and use it. There is nothing wrong at all with locking them out of your room for a while. You don't have to keep it locked all night long. Its also a good idea as they get older to teach them to knock and don't enter until you say its ok. :)
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