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Okay so I have my boyfriend.
And then we have his friends.
I talk to his friends online, he doesn't have a problem with it. But today I was talking to his friend, nick. and this was the first time we actually like a had a conversation.
So then nick tells my boyfriend that we're good friends. I have no problem with that. But my boyfriend is mad, and he says "Why did you have to become best friends with my girlfriend?"
I don't understand why he's so mad. It's not big deal, we're not going to go out or anything.
So, help ?
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well he said that you guys were good friends. my boyfriend gets pissed bout that stuff to & ii know why its probally because his friend likes you & hes probally afraid that you guys are gonna hook up & that you might leave him & he probally just doesn`t wan`t that happening.
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He's probably just insecure & that's okay. I'm sure he feels threatened that you might start liking his friend Nick. But if you're gonna have a relationship with someone, there needs to be trust. Sit down with your boyfriend, tell him you are interested him & him only. & that Nick & you are strictly friends. He's probably not comfortable with the idea, but sooner or later he'll have to accept that you're going to have guy friends no matter what relationship you're in. You have to tell him he has no reason to act jealous or be too controlling. The relationship is not going to go anywhere without that trust.
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well he just might be afraid he's going to lose you to some other guy - and losing you to a friend would be even worse. he's just trying to be protective and everything. so you need to talk with him and reassure him that you're not going to cheat on him or anything. you're only interest is him. cause you know what happens. best friends get really close, and he just might be afraid you two best friends might get a little closer than close.
but another factor is, like the advicenator said below, he might also be afraid if you become friends with all his friends, he won't have an "guy time". guys always like to hang out with eachother and just be guys and whatnot and take a little break from their girlfriends and hang out, and it'd be hard to do that if all his guys friends would be like "hey let's call adn talk to your girlfriend!" or "let's invite your gf over to hang!"
so just talk to him about it. just be like,"____, why are you getting so upset at the fact that me and nick are friends? is it because you think i'm going to go and cheat on your or something? or like, don't you want me being friends with your friends?" [ or something like that ] and just talk to him about and see what's going on and reassure him that's there's absolutely nothing at all to worry about.
i hope i helped. <3
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There are two reasons why your boyfriend could be angry.
The first and most obvious is that your boyfriend is angry because he's jealous, he's wants you to be his and his alone, he doesn't want other guys - especially his friend - to get close to you. If this is the case then you need to reassure your boyfriend that you don't want to be with anyone else except him, and that he has absolutely nothing to worry about.
The other reason could be that he wants his friends to stay seperate. This is common with guys, they don't want to spend all their time with their girlfriends and they like to have time where they can just be guys with their friends. If this is the problem then tell him that you're not trying to muscle in on his friendships, and that you don't have a problem with him wanting to keep his own friends. Make sure you don't always tag along when he's with Nick, so that he doesn't feel suffocated.
Either way you need to ask your boyfriend what made him angry so you can determine what the problem is and sort it out.
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