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BAT MITZVAHS!
Hi I live in a town where there are lots of jewish people and there are sooo many bat/bar mitzvahs! I got invited to my first two (no not one, i got two invitations at the same time, but the bat mitzvahs are on diff days thankfully!!!) My family isnt rich where I can get a new dress everytime i get invited to one. Heres what I need to know:
1. What kind of dress are you supposed to wear? Formal, casual, kind of casual???
2. DO people usually buy a different dress for each bat mitvah cause i think it is kind of odd to wear the same dress to (not literally) 20 bat mitzvahs!
3. How should you do you hair? Like should I get it done at a hair place???
4. WHere can I get reasonable priced dresses that are appropriate for a girl who JUSST turned 13? I don't think my parents are going to let me wear strapless!!!
5. HOW MUCH MONEY SHOULD I GIVE??
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the dresses you should wear is USUALLY semi formal...just a nice dress...nothing tooo fancy...but not too casual eaither (lol i know thats kind of confusing.)
I personally bought a new dress for each one...but that doesnt mean you have to too...you could buy a bunch and then alternate them and take into account who is there (you could wear one dress with a certain group of friends and then if you go to another that will have different people you could wear the same dress...and no one will know!)
As for your hair...i usually just straightened it...i wouldnt bother getting it done each time...you usually end up putting it in a ponytail b/c of the dancing. :)
I gave 54 or 36 (depending on how close i was with that person)..it is supposed to be in incriments of 18 (i believe thats the right number)
I'm not sure where you could get a dress...you could try bloomingdales, or macys, or a store like that...try googling "teen dresses" or something like that.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
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It first depends on when the service & party are. If the service is in the morning and the party is immediatley following, then you do not have to wear formal clothing (but not compltely casual either). A dress would be fine, as long as you have a sweater to wear in the synagague, to cover your shoulders. However, if it's a morning service, do not wear a floor length ball gown...this is way too fancy (unless you check with all your friends & they are all doing this). If the service is at night, your dress can be a little more formal, but make sure you still have something to cover you up at the service. If the service is in the morning & the party is later at night, you can just wear a cute little skirt to the service, and a fancier dress at night. The dresses you picked out would be great for no matter when the services and parties are, just wear a sweater or a shawl over them for the service. Oh and some places that would have good priced dresses are Macy's (you already had this), JCPENNY, Forever21 (they sometimes have fancier ones, but usually sundresses, so you need to look for the fancier ones), Kohls might have a few... try their websites & have fun!
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1. It depends. For the actual service (normally a morning thing), wear very nice church clothes. It doesn't have to be a new dress because nobody's going to look at you. It shouldn't be formal, and it shouldn't be casual. Church clothes is basically the most specific thing I can tell you. 2. No. Do you buy a different dress every time you go to church? Same concept. It's not prom, you can repeat your clothing. 3. If you want. Most guests don't get their hair done for the morning service, but if you want to get it done for the party that night then go ahead. Usually the person who is having the bat mitzvah gets their hair/nails done so you wouldn't be out of place. 4. Look at the junior's section in Dillard's or JCPenney's. 5. Bat/Bar mitzvahs are fairly important. They're generally more important than birthdays are, in the Jewish community. Let's say that you would give your good friend $20 for a birthday present... you might want to up it to like 30 or 40. It's your choice though, and it depends on how close you two are. I'm not actually Jewish, but I have a Jewish friend and she tells me all of this stuff.
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Ok I can help you out...
1- Wear formal clothing for the actual readings, then you might want to bring some casual (but not to casual) kind of clothing for the reception/party part of the bar mitzvah.
2-Well I don't buy dresses so I can't help you out to much on this part, but as long as you don't wear like a t-shirt or something you'd wear to school for the reading portion, then you should be fine. Wear something that you'd wear to a special occasion.
3-The hair is up to you, it doesn't matter how you have it.
4-I don't know where to buy dresses :-/
5-Well this part really depends...A lot of people at my bar mitzvah who were just friends of mine gave me about 20-50 dollars. But if it's a closer friend or your family knows them pretty well, then it's always nice to spend a little more like around the 50 dollar region.
well have fun at the bar mitzvahs :D hope i helped for the most part
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it should say on the invitation weather it's casual, or black tie. if it doesn't say casual, i would wear something dressy. not necisarilly what black tie would be, just a comfortable dress. you don't want to break the bank.
i had three dresses for all the bm's i'd gone to. usually they were for different crowds of people, so i wouldn't see many of the same people at each one i went to. so i'd switch my dress, depending if there were a ton of people there who'd been to the other where i was wearing that dress.
i wouldn't get my hair done unless it's someone important to who's hosting it. do your hair yourself. unless you have short hair, i wouldn't reccomend wearing it down. it get's messy and hot odd looking. ask a parent to show you a type of up-do.
dresses, try a local store. or a mall shop.
when it comes to money, give thirty six. ... intervals of 18. i don't know why, but it's a jewish tradition.
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