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my dirty little secret (online relationship)
Before I ask this question, which may seem to have a simple answer to some, I must first try to put you into my situation. And if i do this properly Im sure you will find that it is not so easily answered. I am a seventeen year old girl starting her senior year in highschool who has never even been spoken to by a guy let alone kissed. Usually I am invisible to them, and when i try to talk to them they usually just ignore me. I used to think it was because i was a bit of a nerd but not even the nerdy boys liked me. So one day during the summer I was just browsing the web reading my favorite fanfiction stories and i come across a dating service advertisement under the romance section. Anyhow i find a guy my age and Instant Message him on aim. He and I have been talking ever since (for four months about two hours each day) just casually and we ask each other for advice, and argue mostly about what we read or hear in the news. he is about a year and a half older than me and lives about an hour and a half a way. I know he is not a freak because i have done my research and if anyone has the right to be sceptical about or relationship it should be him since I am the one who instant messaged him and he has no idea how I found his name. I am going to be busy with school soon and Im not sure if i should keep talking with him or not. He and I enjoy talking with each other and we feel we can share nething even the most embarassing things about ourselves because we dont know who the other person is. Our relationship is almost freeing. But He will be starting college in the fall and I feel as if i would be bothering him, although he asks my help with everything. Is he worth my time?? or is my relationship just brief infatuation?? and if it is is infatuation is it really bad to have a friend that is a guy??
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Well, this sounds to me like a really good friendship, which is usually the start to a really good relationship. I would keep talking to him, if you both help eachother and benefit from eachother, then what's the harm? I think he's worth your time, and if you feel you two can develop a relationship out of it, by all means, try. It might be a little difficult to talk to eachother while schools going on, but I have interet friends too, and I just talk to them whenever school lets out for the both of us and we talk for like, an hour or two and then we go on and do our homework assignments or whatever it is we have to do. And since he'll be in college and might have more work to do or something, and if you're afraid of annoying him, just ask him if he's busy and can talk before you guys go off into a conversation and if he says "yeah", just be like "oh sorry! i'll just talk to you when you're free". But even if a relationship doesn't get out of this, or if you two decide to part ways because it's too difficult having a long-distance relationship, you can at least still remain really good friends. I hope I helped. <3
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if you are really good friends and you help eachother you should definently keep talking. if your worried about bugging him just ask if he's busy when you want to talk. i wouldn't get too serious about dating him, keep him as a friend. no it is not bad to have a guy friend! it's the same as a girl. so don't just blow him off.
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For the time being, go ahead and give it a shot. Don't expect it to go all the way, but don't give up on. If you are expecting a relationship out of it, let him know.
Seems like a pretty good friendship developed there - which is crucial for any relationship. If you feel intimidated by his personality or the things he does, try not to get dragged into it. Stay 'good'. Keep the friendship going and do your best to stay out of his way but still be there for him. Hope that helped and good luck.
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And why not keep talking to him?This guy can teach you so much things you never knew and teach you how to be more open with guys.Since you guys are going to be busy,talk whenever you guys are free only.You dont have to talk 4 hours a day when one of you guys got a test tomorow.
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