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I'm in love and am scared and confused!
I'm 17 almost 18 and I fell in love with the perfect guy we've been dating a couple months now and his family loves me and my family loves him. We have both hinted at marriage and we both are going in the same direction. He's 21 and I met him through friends. But i'm scared that I'm going to get my heart broken. He's the first guy thats ever been nice to me in a relationship and didnt expect things from me. I guess I'm just confused on how to take all this in. We both act almost as if we are almost ready, but I'm getting impatent waiting for him to pop the question. What can I do to hint that i think we should take the next step or should I wait for him to do it?
love,
~Christina~
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Both of you are too young and you don't know enough about each other just yet. If he really is the ONE and you are sure, a couple of years won't make any difference. When you push something like this and rush into seriousness, it never works out.
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hey doll. well, to be completely honest, i'm not sure you're ready yet. you don't have enough trust in him yet. you're scared you're gonna get your heart broken. when you're ready to get married, i think you should be almost totally positive he's not going to leave you. and just wait it out, when he thinks it's the right time, he'll do it. hope i helpedd.♥
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well... my advice to you is to WAIT! i don't think that a couple months is what it takes to get married.. if you rush then it might not turn out what you expected and could lead to a DIVORCE... i think you should wait a year or two... considering your only 18 and you have only know him for a couple months.. but if you say that he's a sweetheart then i don't think you have anything to worry about.. but like i said you should definately wait... this will prevent heartbreak!
good luck,
Ask_Beth
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uhhh... well maybe it would be good advice to tell you what i would do if i was in this kindof a situation so here i go, i would hint around to him like say a bunch of stuff about it like what kind of a dress you would buy IF you were getting married and where and stuff... but try and do it were he doesn't think that you are being to pushey. And maybe one day he will pop the question you have always dremped of.
--askmeyo_50
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It is so great that you found someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. I'd suggest that you wait it out and let him ask you. You can ask questions like "how many kids do you want" and make comments like that to him that suggest you're thinking about more. However, keep getting to know each other and in time, when it's right, he'll ask you. You have your whole life ahead of you to get married. Enjoy dating for a while and all the things that dating brings. And I suggest that before you actually get married that you do pre-marrital counseling to discuss different things about the two of you (different parenting styles, raising kids, how many you want, money issues, religion, carrers etc.) Just be there for each other and motivate one another in your careers/ school. Save up for your own place and such (I assume you still live with your parents) and get ready for the long road ahead! I hope this helped and good luck! <3 Dana
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Being scared is ok, but if you really are confident and not stressing out about the fact that it may not work, then that's when you're ready for any next steps. Being in marriage is about sticking together and possibly taking care of children. When this happens, you don't really stress over any of that because you are adults.
I'm not trying to tell you that you aren't ready for marriage, I honestly think that you are rushing into it. Marriage doesn't have to hapen right when you hit your 20s. I think it's wonderful that you've found someone you dream of marrying one day, but why not wait until he decides that he's ready to marry you? Who knows, he may still just want to have fun with you as close mates. But I strongly advise you to stop stressing over what could happen. It can bother you and really hurt you. Besides, let's say the relationship DID end. You would make it through and you would find someone else. You would survive, there are tons of other guys who could make you feel the way he does.
-TheTeenGirl
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Hey-
If you are meant to be together- then it will happen in due time...
I'm pretty sure there isn't a way to hint it without coming out and saying it...
Although... you could just act all sweet and lean on his shoulder if you are sitting down together..
Ask him out on a date (like dinner) and make sure its in a romantic place
That might set up a perfect situation for him to pop the question...
Hope I helped!
Let me know how it goes!
--Jack
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