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Boy on my mind and i don't know why
Okay so like a i've only beens friends with this guy Alan for like about two months. Last week he asked me if i wanted to go to the movies that friday (two days ago) with him. Well i have social anxiety disorder and i take anti depressants/anxiety pills prescribed by my psychiatrist. and when he asked me if i wanted to; i began sweating 5000000 mi per hour. i havent gone to a lotta places this summer and since its almost over; i decided to go. i also brought two of my friends to see if it'd help. ohkay well skipping to the main part of my story; he told me he expected better. he doesnt understand that i hurt myself (cut) after every event or hangout and hoping my anxiety would stop. and i never got to bring myself to killing myself. i do want to but i dont. im just confused. what he said hurt me so much. i dont really have a specific question but.. what do i do now?
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You move on, you stop worrying him and you get over it.
I'm sorry, I don't have any better advice for you, your question is verrrry vague.
What I do know however, from being a girl trying to date and having GAD myself, is that if you can't explain to a guy that some things make you uncomfortable or if he can't understand that discomfort AND especially if he is condescending to you because of that, then he isn't a good guy for you.
As a teen with any sort of mood disorder or poor mental health, it's really hard to date. A lot of teenagers are really self-involved, and it's hard to find a teen that can appreciate the difficulties you face and deal with them maturely, the same way it's hard for you to deal with your own emotions maturely all the time.
But dating right now isn't something you absolutely have to do. If you can't date right now without feeling amazingly anxious, then don't date. Work on hanging out with people you trust, doing small things that scare you or make you nervous. Exposing yourself to those things will help you get over them. Be better with yourself before you try to add anyone else into the mix. You can build up to dating and more importantly, dating someone who is right for you.
If you aren't comfortable enough to explain your situation to this guy OR he can't understand the situation OR he simply doesn't care, then there is NO relationship potential, no matter how much you might like him. So whatever pain you are in, just let it go, it's pointless.
If you aren't already, talk to a therapist. Especially a Behavioral or Cognitive Therapist. With a bit of work they can really change your life for the better.
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Well hes prob. concerned about you. Cutting is very dangerous. If you hit your artery you WILL die in 3 min. I might even be a little scared because its a big issue. I think you need to tell someone because this is very dangerous and about Alan just give him time
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