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me and my boyfriend
Hey..sorry its soo long i hope you can help im the one usually giving advice if you ever need some ask me!
I hav been going out for this guy let's call him Josh for almost 10 months. We hav an amazing relationship and he really is my best friend. We have one problem his ex girlfriend is insane. She is obssesed with him and there is a long story behind that but just to make it short she is jealous and she wants him and her and I got into a big thing. I don't liek to start things and i do stand up for myself but i don't liek having enemies. About 2 weeks ago. My boyfriend started treating me like crap. This is 2 weeks ago: Saturday night we got into a fight because his ex's friends were starting stuff with my friends. I told him that i didn't know if i cood take i anymore. We weren't on the best page. Since it is summer we don't see eachother that much he went to camp before these 2 weeks and now he's on vacation. SO back to Saturday so that happened then on Sunday we talked and he was mad and upset. On monday we were planning to see eachother on tuesday but my friends messed it up. Also on monday we had a long talk about his ex and hwo i feel like he doesn't stand up for me like he should. When our plans got ruined for tuesday i was upset but it seemed like he didn't even care. On tuesday he called me at night and we didn't talk much but i asked him what he did today and he said nothing and that he's been thinkin about alot. I got a little worried. Well anyways Wedneday came n i went to my friends house with him and all my friends.I decided to just forget about everything because he was leaving that friday and i thought it would be the last time i would see him so i wanted it to be good. It somehow came up and he wanted to talk and said that i don't feel like he is really intersting and all that and he simply told me that he was just thinking that the relationship is getting too serious as in commitment wise. I understood because we are still young but how could he tell me he loves me if he doesn't wanna be with me. Well anyways on thursday i found out that on wednesday night he slept at his friends house and he did a camera thing with one ofmy friends theyw ere all joking but he told her to pull her shirt down more so her boobs would show. It's so hard to even write this because he's so not like this. On thursday night i found out earlier that day his ex adn her friends came over to swim with his friends. Just to amek it short on friday i saw him for 2 minutes and i was planning on talking to him about it but he could opnlys tay for like 5 minutes. He was being an ass and he just left and said i love you bye. He's on vacation right now and i don't know what to do when he comes back. Thanx for reading this .What should i do? I'm 13 almost 14 and a girl.lol
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I agree with what the person before me said. Let this go. You have so much time ahead of you so you should not let a relationship like this scar you or bring down your self-esteem, especially for your future.
Use this time he's away to really think about things. Don't take this the wrong way but trust me: at 13, especially for a girl, things like that (or even worse) have devastating consequences. I've seen a lot of girls get really depressed...over a guy. I won't tell you who to see/not see, but I will tell you that when you pull a friendship into a relationship, you are taking the chance of losing that friendship if you lose the relationship. Trust me, right now you want to worry about school and family, not guys, its just not worth it.
So when he gets back, sit him down and tell him how you feel. Do you feel upset? betrayed? heart-broken? Be open. If you feel that this relationship is giving you any trouble, I mean any trouble at all, then call it off. Be friends. It really is the best way to go. Stop yourself from any possible or future heart breaks or anything like that. So tell him how you feel and if you feel this isn't going anywhere or is taking too much out of you, call it off.
I mean I can't pinpoint what exactly he feels about you. I will tell you that at that age (assuming he isn't 3 years older than you) most guys don't see 'love' or relationships the same way girls do. You might both love each other, but have different ideas of what that means and what love is. So you too need to communicate and talk to each other before you go any further. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Yes, I know how you feel because my ex did that to me except he slept with another girl.. ouch, but what you need to do is maybe just ignore him for a while. If he does that to you he doesn't deserve you, your way better then he is. So I suggest go find another guy that you can trust well, or ignore him. When you have new boyfriends its just a good feeling, and you don't need to be going through this crap that this other guy is doing, he's growing up and being a typical guy but not every guy is like that so I hope you find the perfect one dear! Hope I helped you!
Much love && sunshine
Neely
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woman you are hell tooo young to go through this shit.He doesnt love you.Not one bit actually.Hes just a kid too.Kids play around like that.He doesnt even know what love is!!Did he even get puberty yet??If he "loved" you he wouldnt let his ex get in between you two.I think you should dump him and move on with your life.This guys doing everything he can to make it obvious that he dont want you....hes hurting you by doing the video thing with your "freind" and doesnt talk to you much means"woman,leave me alone im sick of you!" sorry but its the truth,dump him before he gets you to depression.
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