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so much running through my head!
alright so today i was supposed to go to my friends b-day party. but of course my dad made me play in a softball tournament instead. i told her i could come to her party around 8 PM. well that didnt happen cuz my dad got hit in the head with a softball and had to go to the hospital and now he has a concussion. so i call my friend when i get home and tell her i cant come to her party. and what a beyotch..i tell her about my dad and shes like oh. she didnt even say is he ok?? anyway..she gets mad at me cuz i apparantly "promised" her id be there and then she hung up on me. i never promised anybody anything. she doesnt even understand that my dad was in the hospital and its not like im gonna go to a party!! its not my falut i had a triple-header softball tournament to play and then my dad gets nailed in the head!! i dont know if i should be mad at her or should i just wait and see what happens??
thanks lots. :)
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Hey, This is what i think,
Whatever you do please do NOT take this out on yourself or blame yourself for anything its not your fault this wasnt your intention of happening.
Anways if you want your friendship to keep going on call her up the next day and said to her, Im sorry i couldnt make it to your party My dad got hit and i would of loved to be there but i couldnt i had to stay with my father. If she hangs up on you dont call her back right away because that will just be what she is expecting just wait an hour or two and then call her...
ALso...when you call her back say to her, please dont hang up on me i didnt mean not be there..and if she says but you promised...then just say, Okay well if i did i dont remember but i would of loved to be there but i didnt know my dad was gonna get hurt...i cant tell the future..i didnt want this to happenn and i didnt mean for it to happen im sorry..
If that doesnt work try saying to her i want to make it up to you...
And than maybe you can like take her out to dinner for her birthday
And if she doesnt want to talk to at all then its ot worth bein friends with her a real friend wouldnt do that she doesnt respect you and you need a friend who does just try to move on and later you will probably not regret it
i hope i helped <3 good luck =]
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Well when something goes wrong with my friends and me, I'm usually the one that says something. And since your friend was being so inconsiderate this is what I would do, which I advise you to do as well.
Don't call her tonight (let everyone cool off), wait until tomorrow and when she answers say something like "I just wanted you to know that I'm sorry that I couldn't come to your party but just incase you were wondering, my dad is doing better. Not that you asked or anything." It lets her know that what she did was wrong and you're a little ticked of (well not just a little). Then see what she says.
If she says something like "You should be sorry you didn't come because you promised me!" Then tell her that your dad's health was a priority and if she doesn't see that then she's very self absorbed. Don't talk to her until she comes around and sees that what she did was selfish.
If she apologizes and says something like she hopes your dad is okay, talk it out with her. Tell her that it hurt when you told her about your dad and she didn't care. Realize that she's your friend and wanted you to be there so she was caught up in the moment when she wasn't worried about your dad. She should also realize that even though you told her you'd be there, if something happens to your dad, you need to be there for him.
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what i think you should do is have your friend come over to talk and then have your dad come down and tell her the story. but try not to make it to obvious or she will get mad
hope i helped
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You shouldnt be mad at her, you didnt do anything wrong. Shes the one who got all mad at you and hung up on you. But dont be mad at her, just talk to her quietly about what happend to your dad, Tell her how you feel and that you didnt make any promise to her. To make her feel even more happy, you can tell her you will make it up to her when you have time. Like a movie or a sleepover. And then you can get her a present and a belated birthday card. She will totally understand.
I hope I helped and Hope your dad is okay!
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