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i don't know what to do
On myspace a band sent me a friend request and I accepted it. I clicked onto their profile and I loved their music! They arn't a popular band, they are just starting out so I clicked onto their pictures to see what they looked like. One of the members of the band, his name is Linzy, caught my eye. The second I saw his picture I fell in love. He's not even that cute, but he's all I can think about. On the page it listed all of their screen names so I IMed Linzy and I talked to him for an hour. I told him I loved him and I wrote him a poem and I told him hes sexy and I want to be his girlfriend, and first off these things just slipped out, I started typing them and I couldn't stop myself. And second of all I don't even know him and I'm randomly obsessed. I asked him for his personal myspace and I sent him a friend request. I sent him a total of like 10 messages and comments in 3 hours. I commented all of his pictures saying "your so hot and sexy." This guy is 5 years older then me and he smokes weed, and I don't know how I can love him but I just do. I found out he has a girlfriend, and I got soooooo jealous. I don't even know him and every single person that left him a comment on myspace, I got sooo jealous for no reason. I can't stop leaving him comments saying I love him. I asked him if he liked me, and he said well I never even met you. When Linzy is not online I talk to all of the other people in his band and I ask them about Linzy. What his interests are, what he does for fun and stuff. They seriously must think I'm a freak. I dream about him and think about him all the time, and the most I've seen of him is a freakin PICTURE. I tried deleting his screen name and deleted his myspace and the band's so I could get over him, but then 10 seconds later I added his screen name again because I missed him. I don't know why I'm so obsessed when 1. I don't know him, 2. He's not cute, 3. He's alot older then me. I'm soooooo obsessed I tell all my friends about him and stuff. And him and his band have a concert that's coming right near where I live and I already bought tickets. I don't know why I'm so obssessed with him, when the other people in his band are way cuter. He's the uglyest one. And I don't like him because of his personality, because hes got the most boring personality in the world and he's soooo shy. And I promised myself I would never like any one who smokes, and he smokes weed daily and here I am OBSESSED with him. He's really nothing special. What can I do to get rid of these feelings about him. I don't know him and I'm never going to meet him, so do you think the reason I'm so obsessed and like him so much is a warning or some kind of thing God's telling me that he's the one for me. Maybe God's trying to hint to me that he's Mr. Right??? I've never felt like this about a guy, and I haven't even met this dude!! And I know he's not a 50 year old stalker because my friend went to his concert. What do I do?!??!?! I'm making myself sooo anxious and I have to go online every 5 mins to check if he sent me a comment on myspacee. Help!!!!
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How could he be the "one" for you if you don't think he's cute and you think his personality sucks? That's just rude and then you go and say that he is soo hot. Do you even know what you want and not to sound rude, but it's not "love". Guys hate when girls obsess over them and you have a problem with that. I seriously have no idea why you're so obsessed. Only you can figure that out. I also don't think that God is trying to hint you that Linzy is Mr.Right. Anyways, you need to stop talking all bad things on him. I personaly don't think that you think he's all that ugly or that his personality is boring. I mean there has to be something that you liked about him that made you get like this. So, stop going on the computer. You'll have plenty of time for it so just go out and keep yourself busy. Try meeting other guys even if you don't think it will help you forget a little about Linzy. Have fun and maybe you'll figure out everything in a little. Don't rush about your feelings.
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Calm down this situation can be fixed,asking for help is a start you have to force yourself not to go on myspace for a while so you don't get the feeling to wanting to leave him a comment or anything.Tell your friends that you are going to stop talking you expect the same form them not even to mention his name.Do something to keep you busy like exercise,chores,watching a lot of television,reading a book or the newspaper whatever will take your mind off him.This will take some time but if you put effort into it the sooner you'll get him over with.
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Okay darling, here's the thing; I think maybe the reason why you spend so much time IMing this guy and sending him messages and comments is because you're bored. I know it doesn't seem like it, but really. It's proven that people who spend too much time on myspace are bored and are on it so much because they have nothing better to do. I think first off, you should find a better, more productive way to spend your time. If you find something to do that will keep you off myspace, hopefully it will keep your mind off this guy for a while too. Find something, ANYTHING, to distract you from it. Next, you should always ALWASY keep in mind that you have never ever met this guy, Maybe he's not so great in person. (I know you said he's not cute but looks don't really matter) PLus there's the age difference and the fact that he smokes weed. If you're against the whole weed thing, that should definately be a turn off. I think maybe you should try meeting someone else. You said this guy already has a girlfriend, so it seems to me like you have a very, very, very, very, very slim chance of ever having a relationship with him (plus, no offense, but you really came off kinda stalker-ish and you probly creeped him out a bit)
So basically what I'm telling you to do is forget about this guy and try to find someone else, someone you can actually be with (and someone who will keep you off mypsace for five minutes) I know this may be hard, but you have to try. Having this obsession with someon eyou've never met is very unhealthy.
I hope this was helpful,
-Kayla Jay
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Okay first of all,
I dont know why you are obsessed.
But I dont think its God pointing that hes mr.right.
Its not love, its lust and obsession, and I know you know that. If you've never met him you really have no connection to him, and if you think he is so ugly and has a bad personality
why are you obsessing over him?
Truth be told, guys HATE it when girls obsess over them, and talk to their friends, and constantly talk to them, and thats what your doing, and I know you want to stop.
But you need to have control of yourself, just delete him off myspace, and aim, dont talk to him, whenever you want to remind yourself why in the heck do you want to talk to him?
He smokes weed, your not physically interested in him, and you've never met him in rl, and he has a girlfriend. You know?
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