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Boyfriend got somebody pregnant
Hi!I'm 27 years old and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 4 years now. We have been planning to settle down in the near future but we were just waiting for him to finish law school. Some time last week, he told me he wanted to break up with me because he's been going thru a lot of pressure with his studies. I told him that I understand and that I'm willing to wait for him. I said I wanted to fight for our relationship cuz I love him so much. Then he confessed... He got a girl pregnant from a "One Night Stand" he had a couple of months ago. I asked him if it was an affair and if he loved the girl. He said he didn't and doesn't have plans of marrying the girl. I was just thinking, had it not been for the girl getting pregnant, then I wouldn't have found out that he cheated on me. Please advice on what I should do. I love him so much but I don't know if it would be right to stay with him knowing that I might not be able to give him my full trust anymore. He's not only my boyfriend but he's also my best friend. I need your advice cuz I can't think clearly now. Thanks!
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You cant let him cheat on you and do NOTHING about it!Who cares if you love him.If i loved a guy that said to me that hes stressed that he cheated on me and got a girl PREGNANT i woulda kicked his ass.You KNOW hes going to have to take care of this kid dont you.I think you should just let it all out in his face.How would he feel if you were pregnant by another dude?I believe in the sentence "once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater.If you let him off this time who KNOWS?Mabey hell do it again and be all like ...she dont care anyway.
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Hey...well, I think you can still wait for him/date him but keep your eyes wide open. If you are waiting for him now, don't be afraid to meet other guys because you aren't going out and anyway you may find someone who is more trustworthy. If he loves you enough you won't get hurt again. Was he drunk when he laid another girl or what?? Anyway you can go out with him, but hey...don't trust him fully because he should not be trusted all the way. If he does it again or you start to suspect something then break it off. You don't want to marry him then get a divorce because he cheated on you so don't make any large commitments
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~Milly203
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Like I told other people if they cheated on you they'll most likely wind up doing it again.But it's worse when you not only find out that he's cheated but he kept a bigger secret that he made someone pregnant I don't think you should forgive him but it's your choice though. Yes, I think if it weren't for that girl that got pregnant you wouldn't of found out he was cheating on you.If you decide to give him another chance it's going to be very hard for you to ever trust him again.He should apologize for what he did to you.
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If you decide to stay with him he will have to earn your trust back. He needs to be told that up front. It is possible for you to forgive and move on. He will need to realize that you may get upset if he isn't where he says he will be or if he is late getting home etc.
The child will also be the constant reminder of this affair. You will have to decide if you can live with that. He will probably want to be part of its life since he will wind up paying child support. Which is another thing you will have to be able to deal with.
If you think you can handle those things then it has a chance. But no one is going to blame you if
you can't. :)
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it seems like you really love this guy. it doesnt seem that its fair to you though because he cheated on you, and now is going to be a father to someone elses child. the decision is up to you. you're going to have to forgive him for this, or just move on. moving on hardly seems like an option because youve been together for so long. it'll probably take a lot of work, but i think you should try to work past this.
good luck =)
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