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New Grade
I'm staying back and on the day of step up day i cried its ganna stink.I don't know anyone in the grade that im going to be in next year so im ganna make new friends.But what if no one likes me what if they hate me and i dont have friends and have so sit alone........I dont want that to happen im ganna be myself every day but what do i do if they hate....and dont just say be yourself cause im gana be but.
help e katie
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hey chic, i was behind 2 grades now i'm only behind one but anyways it does suck at first but you can make it through it.I just helped another person with the same problem. There will be people who like you some of the younger people may even look up to u they did me and it was a great feeling to have someone to look up to you i know you won't be sitting alone unless you want to now come on do you think that there want be anybody who likes you? I'm sure you'll find great friends because a stranger is just a friend waiting to happen. write me back if you want if you have any questions.
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I was going to answer later and go on to bed but when I saw your name I had to answer. I have my own Katie who is going into 10th grade. She has been lucky and has been in the same school since kindergarten and fortunately wasn't held back, even though she had some serious learning problems.
Do you truly know why you were held back? Did you not do your work or is there a learning issue that needs to be addressed. Just because no one has said you have a learning problem doesn't mean there isn't one. I have worked with lots of teens who find they have dyslexia, dyscalculia (math problems) or ADHD while in high school or college. If you can get to the right person to get help you could have a totally different outcome this year. If you did slack off then you need to do the work this year. If there is a problem repeating the grade isn't going tohelp if the problem goes without help.
Now for the social problem. I grew up in a military family and went to many, many schools before I graduated from high school. I even moved during my senior year and yet I had a great senior year. If you give people a chance to become your friend then you won't be lonely. Everyone is afraid of being lonely. If you make the first effort to be friendly then you will find yourself making friends fast. Just be nice and stay genuine. You don't have to give people things to make them like you. The most important thing you can give to a friend is just letting them know you care about them and will help them when needed.
Best of luck with the new school year. If you want further information on learning problems you can email me.
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i had that feelin too but like i didnt want to be alone the whole year so i have like 7 diffrent classes and if i saw some1 that had the same class with me before
--like if the person was in english with me and i saw that person in P.E then i would go up to that person when they're alone and say,"hey do we have english together."
--its better to talk to sum1 when they look like they're alone and not with a bunch of people
u know most people are gonna be new there so they might feel the same thing
hope i helped
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right now I'm just out of my junior year in high school. freshmen year I was brand new in a new program where everyone else already knew each other. I walked in the school with one friend, but no classes with her. gradually I got to know her other friends and I had classes with them (almost all of mine last year). they happened to be almost exclusively seniors last year. they've now gone off to college. I'm still in high school. again, I'm entering with nothing but acquaintances. this summer I was in a show with some school kids so I made an extra effort to get to know them and now I have three more good friends from my school to fall back onto this year from the show and one more just because he hung out with one of them a lot when I was around. it's really not that bad to make new friends. it's even refreshing. I can't say that I have an exact method of making friends, but here is what I did do. I located who I thought were the most friendly, cool people in the room. I completely ignored them. it's hard to make it into an established clique. instead I focused on the loners because I knew I was one myself. I would sit by a different person every day until I found one who would talk to me. then I got to know him better. and I found common ground with another new friend because she's a vegan and I'm transitioning into veganism. the third friend just came up to me often after I made friends with the first one and just started talking.
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Its embarrassing enough to have been held back, but to contemplate the unknown situation of all new people is very daunting when its piled on top.
The fact is that its too late to do anything about it now. You have to live with the consequences.
When you go back to school, make sure that you're paying attention to your studies. The friends *will* come naturally, but you do NOT want to be left back ever again, do you?
Make sure to do all your reading and all your homework. If you're having trouble with a subject, make sure to get help from a parent or the teacher before things spiral out of control.
I'm assuming that you've been checked to see if you have dyslexia or a similar learning disability that makes school hard for you. If you haven't been checked, you should be.
Learning disabilities can be very subtle and have disastrous long term consequences if they remain undetected.
Be strong and it will all work out for you.
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