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heyyy everyoneee.i am soo sorry but this might be in the wrong catagory i didnt know where else to put it., but im fourteen and a female soo.. i feel a little weird about this;; but i shop wayyyy tooo much! i know all girls claim tro be "shopohaulics" but i am the true definition of the word. you know how some peopel eat icecream or cut them selves when theyr sad?.. well when i am sad i go out and spend money. as a result i spend all the money i make at my job and the money my mom gives me. most of the things i buy are impule buys and end up never being used. its a problem.. soo im looking for advice on how to stop this aditction to shopping and any good ways to spend my time when i am sad so as to keep em from shopping lol thankyou so much for your time!. =)
hailey<33
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I would suggest opening a bank accout. And whenever you make money go put it in your account before you spend it. Then you can save up and when you want to buy something that you would really use you actually have the money. If it worked for me it will work for you!!!
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A-G-28
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hey.
i understand how you feel, i usually turn to food when i'm upset about something.
Its okay to shop to make yourself feel better, if thats what works for you then thats okay. ALl you need to do is learn to limit yourself.
Before leaving your house to go shopping, take some of the money out of your wallet. Tell yourself, "okay, i'm only going to brin $75" or how ever much money you want to bring. Doing this stops you from spending too much money, and it might even force you to buy the stuff you really want/need because if you have extra money you'll buy anything just because you can.
If you just want to not shop as much, maybe you can try to take up different hobbies or plan stuff with friends that does not require you going to the mall.
hope i helped =]
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The first response to this answer was great so I will just add that you need to find another way of releasing that sadness, anger or tension you have going on. I did the same thing when I was younger I would totally blow my paychecks on clothes and stuff. It's totally normal but still potentially dangerous if it continues and evolves into something else as you get older. Try doing something else like go running, yoga, listen to music anything that is calming or works out some of those feelings. I started going running when I was angry or anxious, during the run I worked through my feelings and by the end I was on such a natural high from the endorphins and just felt so rejuvinated. There is something for everyone and once you find out what works best for you then you can hopefully get rid of that shopping problem. Good luck!
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Your problem isn't unusual. Many people have trouble controlling their impulses when they're upset. It seems that shopping has become your way to soothe yourself when you're upset. It seems that you need to do two things: 1) deal with the reasons that you are sad, and 2) learn new ways of dealing with sad feelings until they pass. Exercise or talking with friends works well for part 2. How you deal with part 1 depends on what's been going on. You might want to sit down with a school counselor for a chat sometime to sort things out and get another perspective. Feeling like you're not in control of your behavior is a good sign that it's time to get some help.
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