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Which one should I choose?
im 15/f
okay so i have a boyfriend, lets call him "Mark". We just started going out like couple weeks ago. The thing is that we were BEST friends before we started going out and now that we go out, I cant see him as my boyfriend... just a friend.
So, theres this guy, lets call him "Joe". Well, Joe likes me. He wanted to go out with me before Mark asked me out but I said I wanted to get to know him more. Well, now I've gotten to know Joe more and I really like him too.
I know if I break it off with Mark and go out with Joe, things will definitly not be the same as they were. But I really just cant see myself in a relationship with Mark.
So what should I do? Stick with Mark or go for Joe?
Please Help! Thanks in Advance!
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dear writter,
Just do what your heart tells you. You obviously have feelings for the both of them. If you are going to go through relationships like this lets clear it out with the both of the. Talk to Mark first and tell him that you don't think you want to continue on. Of course the look on his face will be very sad but top it off with a nice kiss. I would go for the cheek though. Then he would notice you still like him but it just doesn't feel right. Tell him that youjust want to be friends. He should understand. Wait a week or two then go to Joe. Take your relationship on from there. If you are with Joe I would suggest that you sit down with Mark again and tell him what's going on. But never ever neglet him you must show him that you are his loyal friend and he will get over it.
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No matter what you choose to do in the end, you should get out of your relationship with Mark. If you don't have feelings for this boy and can't see yourself as more than just his friend then there's no point in staying in the relationship, it's not fair to him. Just tell him what you wrote here; you think the two of you are much better off as friends. Things will probly change between the two of you, you probly won't ever get to be as cloe as you once were.
If you really like this boy Joe, then you should go for him. Give it a little time after breaking it off with Mark, continue spending time with Joe as you normally would, and then go for it. If the two of you like eachother and you seem compatable, there's no reason why you shouldn't give it a try.
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ok, you can't go out with Mark, if there isn't anything there. No spark means no relationship. If you have kissed this mark guy, then it'll take a little more work explaining to him that it's not working for you. He's your friend, you shuld tell him, that you want to be his friend, but the relationship isn't working out. Then, after, give some landing time before you talk to this joe dude. If mark and you are cool after, make sure you don't neglect mark!
hope i helped!
M.J. :)
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i think that you should break up with Mark. wait a while dont go out with Joe right away. just a wait a while and just say that you see him more as a friend not as a boyfriend. & if your gonna be going out with mark & dont really like him thats not good and if you really like Joe then maybe you should go out with someone that you love. but dont go out with joe like right as soon as you break up with mark he might get mad at you. wait about a week or a couple days or something
Good luck!
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if you really like "joe" then go out with him. talk to "mark" and tell him you can only see him as a friend and that you hope that this doesnt hurt the relationship you two had before you started going out in the first place, follow you heart, best of luck:)
Tianna Audra
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