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Afraid of Death
I really dread my grandparents dying. Practically every other night i cry myself to sleep because i am afraid that we will get a call the next morning saying one of my grandparents is gone. (grandparents on my mom's side the most) I see them every week, i have been seeing them a lot recently, and we are very close. I try to think about the happy times, and have fun while i am with them. I still can't keep the thoughts out of my head. Is this ok, just a girl that doesn't want to lose someone she really loves, or should i try and not be so close? i really don't want to pull apart from them. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!
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Losing someone we love is always hard but unfortunately it is a fact of life. dont dwell on the ineveitable. You know it will happen someday as it will to all of us. dont pull away from your grandparents! Love them and enjoy them while they are here. Don't let the future ruin the time you have with them now. Talk with your grankparents. let them know what you are feeling. I bet they will have some things to tell you to ease your fears.
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With you I don't think being to attached to your grandparents is a problem; I just think your problem is that you fear the death of your loved ones which is normal, but you should live in the present. Don't fear their death just appreciate the time you have with them. But everyone does die at some point, so when they do die just know that they are happy and wouldn't want you mourning their death.
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Its normal to be scared for someone you love, but crying yourself to sleep is not healthy. If your grandparents are doing fine, there's no reason to worry right now. Just spend time with them and cherish the moments you have together. They may live past 100, you never know. On the other hand, if your grandparents are very sick, then I can't say crying is normal, but it can be expected. If they've been living for a long time with their sickness, there's no reason to worry, but if their sickness is new or getting worse, you do have a reason to be sad. Just keep spending time with them and let them know that you love them.
No matter what catagory your grandparents fit into, there is no time when you should stop being close to them. Just don't worry as much. Take things as they come, and you should be fine.
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i totally understand its hard losing a grandparent or anyone close for that matter. i lost my grandfather to cancer when i was 13 and its been tough. i still get upset when i think of him sometimes. i think you should just spend as much time with them as posible and think about the postive and not the negative thoughts. but if you think you need to talk to someone you should do that, maybe it would help get it off your mind. hope i helped!
-Bess
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That`s really sweet that you love your grandparents so much and you`re scared that their going to die , but look you know everyone dies eventually & it`s just something that happens you cant just make it not happen. I think you shouldn`t pull apart from them , because if you did and they died you would feel bad that you didn`t spend enough time with them.You should just stop thinking about them dying and try to have fun with them because like i said everyone will die one day , and its something that will happen to everyone , so just try not to think about it and try to spend as much time as you can with them! Good Luck! ♥ ♥
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