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being persued by someone you want nothing to do with?
Dan is 18, he never talked to me during school and then all of the sudden he started calling me a lot. As in every day. I tried to avoid talking to him on the phone because I don't really enjoy talking to him. I tolorated it, but now he wants to go to the movies with me. I told him I'd talk to him later about it, because I didn't want to crush him because I know how guys are when they get rejected. So yeah, I think he is calling today and I don't know what to tell him. I don't like talking to him on the phone and I deffinatly do not want to go to the movies with him. Any suggestions on what to do/say when he calls? (I'm not the kind of person that would say something like "STOP CALLING ME! IT'S WERID!" or "eww no i'd never go to the movies with you"). Thanks so much! =)
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yeah i had the same problem a little while ago. just tell him you already like someone and you would rather just stay friends. he'll get the hint but at least its in a nicer way...
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okay...i have had the same problem...this guy named brandon, really liked me. He talked to me during school every day and then he started calling me a lot. Every single day...more than once a day. He too asked me to the movies and to go on dates with him and such. But i didnt like him. I didnt really like anyone so i could tell him that i liked someone else. I had no clue what to do. Then he called again. I decided to stop ignoring the calls and answer it. He asked me to go to the movies with him and then dinner. He said he was buying. so i said this, "brandon, you're a really nice guy, but im not looking for love right now. Im sure you would be a great boyfriend because your a great guy...but im not looking for a relationship dating wise. I just dont think that right now, im really up for dating. Im sry, but i really do think your a nice guy so please dont think that i dont."
yes he took it kind of hard, but what is a girl to do?
yes...never say "eww no id never go to the movies with you." or "STOP CALLING ME! ITS WIERD!" that is the worst way to go so good for you for not being that kind of person. =]
if you just try saying something like i said, im sure it will help you out a little bit. He may take it hard, but trust me...all guy take rejection hard...but girls take it harder...everyone hates rejection..but dont worry about it. It will become less annoying as time passes.
hope that helps
love,
Danielle
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These situations are awkward becasue you sound like a nice person who wouldn't want to hurt someone. That is why I do advise you to be direct but kind; it is definitely possible to be both at the same time. Men (and women, for that matter) appreciate it when they are told the truth so they know where they stand and when to stop trying. Think of a time when you liked a guy but he gave you mixed singles. That kind of crazy-making stuff really is worse then being told the truth. Men also tend to take an indirect "no" or a "maybe" as an invitiation to keep trying as the door is still part way open. In my opinion, telling Dan that you are not interested is the most respectful thing you can do for both of you. You could try to say something like: "You seem like a nice person, but I just don't see it going anywhere romantically for me." Keep in mind that you do not owe him a detailed reason for why you don't want to date him. If you are not interested, you are not interested.
I hope it works out OK.
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i no its hard but you need to tell him straight up hoow you feel. yur notgooing to want to but do it in a nice way. be like you are a good guy but i need some space.i understand hanging sometimes but not all the time. you will be so releived that hes not on your case all the time.
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Yeah i think he likes you but anyone could see that its very obvious now about your situation ive had alot of girls try to tell me to stop calling them and the one that isnt as hurtful is to say this "dan i know you like me alot but i dont think i like you as much as you do me i think we should just be friends because i dont know that much about you and i think we should get to know each other before we do anything else and about calling me try not to do that all the time maybe once a day because it really bothers me that you call me all the time and i hardly even know anything about you"
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