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Car accident causing two deaths
Sorry if this is soo long but its pretty serious.
my Male Cousin recently got marriedlike 4 months ago. And his wife is pregnant. Well not even a week ago her grandfather & grandmother & two half brothers came over from oklahoma to florida. yea perfect right. not. while there her grandfather was driving around with my male cousin and said his driving was horrible. Saturday Morning the grandfather insisted on leaving but my male cousin didnt want him to drive with the grandmother and the 2 kids while his drving was bad. But the grandfather insisted and left. not even 30 min onto the highway he got in a serious car accident. He drove right into one of those huge trucks & flipped the van a few times. It was horrible. the grandmother and the younger of the two kids passed right away. The older kid and the grandfather were on life support. They finally got released out of the hospital a few days ago. Now my cousin && his wife are going to oklahoma for the funeral.
Next part.
His wifes mother & stepdad live with her grandparents. The youngerof the kids was the stepdads only kids with her and she can't have anymore. No one wants anything to do with the grandfather at all.
Now my mom wants advice and i have no idea what to say to her. The grand father has really no reason to be hated in my view. He lost his family also.
What is your guys view & what would you say in this situation?
thank you.
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You're asking me how you should feel about your mother's sibling's cousin's wife's mother's father? egads... who cares? This guy isn't related to you in any sense of the word, I really don't see what the big deal is. Let the immediate family deal with the big internal issues, you and your mom can do your part by minding your own business.
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Well, if you want my opinion...
THAT GRANDFATHER HAS EVERY REASON TO BE HATED!
I mean, although he lost family, he's responsible. Whether or not you want to accept it he's feeling badly too, but if he wasn't supposed to leave with the kids and grandmother he shouldn't have. The fact that he was allowed to shocks me, but what's done is done. It IS his fault, and although you don't have to hold a grudge realize he is responsible.
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Your so right it's no reason to be mad at the grandfather because he has his owb guilt to deal with. just as they lost there family so did he so everyone need to be there for eachother around this time. Because from experinece losing a loved one can make you wanna die. so try to let everyone know they all need to be there for each othe in this time of need. and as you can see life is to short to holding grudges.'
Ill keep your family in my prayer
sorry for your lost
Jasmine**
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That grandfather is going to carry the guilt of killing his loved ones with him for the rest of his life. I see no reason to make it worse on him by hating the guy.
I do think the family should insist he no longer drive, if he hasn't gotten that message yet. Driving is the ultimate freedom for most people. Getting it through an older persons head that they need to give that up is very difficult to do. It becomes necessary sometimes though.
He needs to be treated as everyone else in the family who is grieving is treated. It isn't like he set out to kill them. It was still an accident, he meant no harm.
I'm sorry for your family's loss.
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