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Friends With Benefits.
15/f...well here goes..
there's this guy i like who supposedly likes me. we've been talking for over a month,(i've known him for a few years though) but he has yet to ask me out. i asked him about it, and we argued and to sum it up he pretty much said forget we ever started talking, which wasn't what i wanted to happen. so we started talking again that day, once we both calmed down, and we somehow decided that we would be better off just friends with benefits for now. i'm not sure if that's what i want, but i think that maybe if we do that a relationship could develop. i think i may love him, which doesn't seem to make any sense, but i wouldn't say it if i didn't mean it.
then there's this other boy, who i've fooled around with before, and i've known him forever. i know i love him, but i don't know if it's the same kind of love, he's kinda like a brother? i dont know, it's hard to explain. but i think he's wants something with me (relationship-wise).. i just don't know what to do, because i care for them both. i would just like someones honest opinion on this, like, what would you do if you were me?
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Stop. The whole idea behind friends with benefits is that NO relationship will develop. Tell him you want a relationship, or stick with the friends with benefits thing. But don't expect him to suddenly fall in love with you just beecause you're having sex because obviously sex & friendship are all he wants
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I would never be someone's friend with benifets. it is basically being a fuck buddy.. (no offense) but think about it you guys are friends but you wont be anything more but he can come to you and treat you like his girlfriend whenever he wants to and then go back being friends with you. it isnt a good idea.
as for the other guy maybe not a good idea if you think he wants you for something else..
you need to find someone who loves you for you no matter what you wear, how you act, someone who cares about you no matter what.
♥ Steph
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Friends with benefits is never a good idea. He will just hurt you in the end. I`ve seen it happen with myself and my other friends. So forget the first guy. You guys can be friends, but if that means you will still be attracted to him, then maybe your better off as not friends.
As for the second guy, it seems like you care for him as a friend which is good. But you might want to stop fooling around with him because it will give him the wrong impression.
Try to meet new guys. You will be much happier once you can find someone who will want to be committed to you. =)
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You don't want to be friends with benefits. Especially if you really care for the guy. Because you will get hurt.
Think about it. You want him. He just wants the benefits. He will probably never ask you out on a real date. I mean why would he, hes getting what he wants. You on the other hand will just keep giving the benefits hoping he will see you are the one he wants. It won't happen.
On the other hand if you don't have give benefits
there is always the chance he will decide he wants to date you. If he doesn't then you don't have the bad reputation you could get when he starts bragging about how he can get what he wants from you without having to date you.
You are much better off finding a guy who likes you and wants to take you out on dates now and then. Then you both will benefit from the relationship. The friends with benefits only benefits the guy.
If he isn't the one, someone else will come along. Be patient and wait for him. You won't find him if you are messing around with someone else! :)
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