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Black sheep?
I have a twin sister, and we are 2 minutes apart at birth, me being the eldest. My mom has always stressed to us that favoritism is highly inappropriate and rejected in a parent-child relationship, her being a victim of favoritism herself. But currently, I feel that secretly, my mom favors my sister more, and a lot of times I feel invisible to her. She rarely has time to listen and value my opinion on things, and this has caused us to grow apart.... What can I do to make my mom see and understand how I feel?
Thank you. =)
15/f
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I think one of the only things you can do is just to talk to her about it and tell her everything that is on your mind because in reality only seh can change the way she acts if you know what i mean. obviously you would have to talk to her when no one else is around and make sure she knows that you really mean it and you really care. i don't have a twin but i'm sure it can be difficult at times alwyas having to deal with another one of you (haha) but just think about it this way, your sister might even feel the same exact way and just hasn't said anything yet. i think sometimes parents 'favor' their other kid (usaully the oldest) without even realizing it. in all, your mom loves you both no matter how sappy that sounds so you should just talk to her and even though it seems like shes always busy try to plan a day of the week where just you 2 hang out or something, might help! good luck =)
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Just talk to her about it. I know thats probably what everyones been saying, but seriously it should work. Just tell her you feel like your growing apart over this and explain how you feel. Hope I helped.
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tell her u noe that she said she doesn't have favorites but u feel differently........ or talk to someone else in your family =) maybe they could help you out too. hope i helped xoxo
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it makes perfect sence that she would stress it so much because when people subconsciously feel that they are doing something wrong, they try to compnsate my saying and doing things that indicate the opposite of how they feel. so your mom makes it sound like she opposes favoritism because deep inside she knows that she is doing it and she feels guilty.
maybe if you and your twin are close, you could talk to her about it. does she feel like she is the favorite? maybe she could talk to your mom about it. talking to her directly might not help so much because she might deny it or even get angry (of course, you know better how your mom may react). you could try getting involved in some one-on-one mother-daughter activities.
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well just ignore her.moms hate that!and go out alot and stay up in your room alot and dont talk to her.that will drive her CRAZY!
why did you rate me a two?I mean thats what I do aNd it always works!
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As lame as this sounds, talk to her about it! Say the same exact thing you said. Ask to hang out with her, just one on one! She'll be happy you said anything and try to change her ways.
If you have a father (sorry if you don't) this might be a little bit easier. Tell him your problems and then he'll discuss it with your mother.
*Hope I Helped*
xoxoxoxoxoxo<33
&& Good Luck =)
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She actually sounds like a pretty perfect person to be able to bring this up with since she experienced it herself. Tell her you're sure you're over-reacting but you want to be honest with her and get some reassurance then cite some examples of times you've felt pushed aside or left out.
Avoid accusations coz it sounds like she'll be pretty sensitive and defensive about it if she's so strongly against it but stress that you'd love to be able to set aside some time each week, even if only a few hours to chat just you and her. Offer to go with her when she goes on the grocery shop or something like that if she's really busy to give you an opportunity to spend time together.
I'm sure she doesn't realise she's doing it and will be really eager to make sure you don't end up feeling the way she did.
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like the other guy said tell her how you feel ask her to not take sides tell her you want to talk to her bout "girl" things she will listen trust me and if not you could always be a daddies girl :-p
Wish you the best of luck
~GrkAdvisor~
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