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I got a C- in algebra (a honors course) and my mom told me i was a screw-up. She said that I was basically a failure in life. She out me in this class (I wasn't supposed to be in honors) and I didn't quite understand the concepts... it took me a long time to understand. My mom is extremly mad and I don't know what to do but it's making me very upset.
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Just explain to her that it was a very challenging class & you did the best you could but you couldn't understand the concepts & it took you a while to understand it. If your mom thinks you could do better then a C- then that's why she's probably extremely mad. Next time you're in a challenging class, make sure you see your teacher, ask one of your friends that knows the concepts, or someone in your family for help, then you'll get a higher grade next time. ♥ ♥
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You should try telling her that, tell her that you didnt understand honnors and that your you, and thats the best you can be. I bet your not a screw up and your just a normal kid. Its more your moms fault for putting you in honors classes. Hope this helped.
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Your mom probably doesn't mean the things she is saying about you, and she's probably just saying these things because she's worried about you. For some reason she tought you could handle this class, but obviously it's too advanced for you and hard to understand. You have to sit her down one day and explain to her that you tried to understand the concepts, but it took you a long time, and you weren't meant to be in this class. (But don't say it in a mean way, like "YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE PUT ME IN THIS CLASS, OK??".) I mean, if you're mom really thought those things, would she even have thought to put you in an honors course in the first place? She obviously cares about you.
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Wow I wish I could help with this. I don't really know what exactly to say, but I can try. You're not a screwup! I took honors geometry this past year because I've always been awesome at math, and like you, I recieved a C in the course. My mom was pretty upset with the grade just because she's not used to me getting anything below a B. Honors classes are REALLY hard, especially if you don't understand the material like us with honors mathematics. Besides, our grades are technically B's since all honors classes get an extra GPA point and AP classes get an extra 2 GPA points.
You need to sit down and talk with your mom. Tell her that you tried and that it wasn't your fault you did (in her mind) poorly. Tell her that as long as you try she should be happy and that if she wants a higher letter grade then she shouldn't have put you in a class you weren't able to perform up to her standards in.
Be calm about it though. Yelling and/or crying won't get you anywhere.
Tell her that it hurt when she called you a screw up. Ask her how she would feel if someone told her that she was a failure. Do the whole guilt thing (it really works on parents ;-p... just trying to lighten the mood)
Try and make her understand that you aren't an honors student when it comes to math. Also let her know that your C (when looked at by colleges) appears as a B.
Most of all promise her (and yourself) that if you ever feel as if you're falling behind or don't undestand the concepts, you will ask for help.
Don't ever let anyone call you a screw up or a failure. That's just their insecurity speaking. Most likely your mom was either pushed by her parents/gaurdians to be some kind of perfect student, or she was a so called 'screw up' and doesn't want you turning out the same way.
Just believe in yourself. Prove her wrong this upcoming year. Strive for straight A's (or high B's). If you need extra help, don't be afraid to ask. I hate asking for advice because it makes me feel pretty dumb, but hopefully it doesn't make you feel like that.
Pretty much just tell her how badly it hurt you when she said that to you. Let her know that you tried your best and that is all that should matter to her.
Wow, it seems sooo easy to tell you to do that when in reality, it isn't that easy. At least not for me. I hate when my parents are disappointed at my grades. They have such high expectations for me and not very high expectations for my siblings, I feel as if they think I'm dumb if I get a B or C and they're proud when my siblings to that well. I should try and take some of my own advice.
Anyway, I hope all works well for you. Sorry this isn't my best advice. It's been a long day and I'm tired.
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