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stepmother
Dear Brenda
You seem like a very caring mother and step mother.Also you seem to have a equal partner in marriage. I love to read your column. It looks like your husbands ex wife missed out on a great guy. How do you keep it all together with the ex wife and her husband. Is there anywhere you go if you suspect the abuse. Just wondering i am newly married and would hate for any of this to happen to me. Just looking for some advice
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Hi
Thank you for your kind words. My husband is awesome, which makes dealing with all our tragedies with the kids bearable.
We have been battling child protecion services for four years now. We have gotten the police involved, as well as all the government agencies we could think of...ei...childrens advocate, the ombudsman...to no avail. We've even had doctors admit them to the hospital to keep them safe, and still they are always returned to their mother. Seems unreal huh?
We have spent thousands of dollars in court costs, but because she is not the one who is doing the abuse, they are returned to her. In my opinion she's just as guilty if not more for letting it happen. Her abusive husband can't even see his own two kids from a previous marriage without supervision, and yet he can be alone with my stepkids.
Needless to say, we have absolutley no faith in the justice system. We can certainly see why people tend to take justice into their own hands.
Thankfully, my husband and I have a very loving marriage, and we try to stay strong for the kids when they are with us. In a few more years the kids will be able to have a say in where they want to be, and we have no doubt they will be with us then....I just hope they aren't too messed up by then. We want to get them into counselling but she has to agree and of course she won't.
Anyway, thanks again...and if God forbid you or anyone else is ever in this situation....just stay strong...and do everything you possibly can.
Thanks,
Brenda
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