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My friend
I'm a 16/f and my best friend is gay.
Okay, well, his family is very religious and grounded in "southern" beliefs, and if he comes out to his parents he is afraid he will be kicked out of his house.
He is going to tell his mom first, and THEN his dad, and hasn't told either of them yet. However, he is pretty sure that both of them already know, because of how he acts and things he likes and the fact that most of his friends are girls, and yeah.
He is adament about coming out to them, because he doesn't want to hide who he is, and I don't blame him. Do you think that he, at just 16, should WAIT to come out to them? I dont know what swort of advice I can give him. What should I be doing to help the situation?
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Well I have gay friends, too. And they 15, and their parents know, and they accept it.
I mean its not something they can help, and he wants to be who he is. And it would feel much better if his parents accepted it, so he is doing the best thing.
Just be there and support him, if things dont go well.
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Hi there, this is quite a tricky situation. He has a right to decide what sex he is e.g Bi, Gay or straight. Just tell him that it is'nt anything to worry about. There's quite alot of gay people, more than what there used to be. His parents being "religious" people will probaly not like the fact that he is gay, however they have to realise that its 100% his decision wether or not he wants to be gay. There seems to be quite alot of gay people these days. Famous people such as George Michael and Elton John are gay, and there's nowt to be ashamed of. It's his decision wether or not he tells his parents. There is'nt an awful lot you can do about this one. This is between him and his parents. Just try and be a friend and tell him that he is more than welcome to talk to you about this one. O.K.
If he does open up to his parents, then tell him that it took alot of courage and if his mother or father kick him out, then maybe he could stay at your house, until he:
a) Finds a place to live
b) Lets the dust settle between him and his parents.
B is a better option. Feel free to contact me when ever you like. Thanks. Daniel.
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heyy..well you said that his parents probably already know - because after all, you can usually tell when someone is gay. maybe he should wait til hes a little older to come out. hes young and who knows what could happen. theres nothing lost if he just waits..
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I think he's waited enough. Coming out is something that he needs to do, and if he believes the time is right, then it is. Unfortunately, his fear is a reality for many people. If the worst should happen, just be there for him, and ask your parents if he can stay at your house.
You may want to read a few things first. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) is helpful, and you can find more information through google.
I'm sorry, I feel like I'm not giving you enough information. But the truth is, he's doing something really big and it may or may not turn out well. Cheer him on, and be there for him if it doesn't work. I should add that many parents don't react the way they're expected to. I read a true story about a man who was never close to his father at all--the day he told his father he was gay was the first time they hugged. So it may be wonderful! It might be rocky at first, and with time become easier. And it might not end up well at all. No matter what happens, be there for him as a friend and show that you love him. That's most important.
Be sure to tell your friend that I'm cheering for him!
-Lea
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