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do i deserve him back?
hi - ok so i really like this guy. he lives like down the road from me, and we have gone out before. we dont go to the same school, so when we went out it was hard to see each other b/c we are both involved in sports. when we went out we both cheated on eachother, and since we never saw eachother - we just thought it was best to break up. btw, i was his first gf, first kiss, first like everything. this was all in february. now its june, and i want a new chance at him. he says that he likes me, but not enough for us to go out. he told me hes scared that if we go out, he will sqrew things up for us. bc i like him more than he likes me. i really want a second chance with him. do i deserve it? what can i do to convince him to be with me? should i move on? how? please help. i rate high
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i agree with carollani, if this guy is playing hard to get then let him and dont chase him.
if you went out befor then it would be fair enough for you to get back together, but due to the situation fo you both cheating it wouldnt be wise to get back together. as it can only turn out for the worse unless it is true love which me may not feel untill we are much older. but it is not for us to tell you what to do only you can decide and what ever you do he has to think it is the best interests of the both of you. and if he doesnt then you deserve better.
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It's not a question of "deserving" him, you're just asking for pain by wanting to be with him.
What's going on is this: he's moved on and you haven't. You were his first and now he's onto his second, third, fourth... He's not looking back, so why are you? It's cool if you keep him as a friend, but do yourself a favor and stop chasing this guy.
He doesn't like you like that and if you convinced him to go out with you again he'd be bored and probably cheat on you again, and the relationship would end again.
Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? Don't you deserve to be wanted? It's humiliating and pathetic to chase after someone who has no interest in you. You're SO much better than that; you should be with someone who's crazy about you, girl. Don't sell yourself short!
How do you move on? Stop obsessing about him. Get a hobby, learn to paint, read, start bird-watching... whatever! Work on YOURSELF; you'll be a happier, more confident person and happy confident people don't have to chase after boys--the boys chase after them.
Carollani
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i had the same problem with a girl and i was in the same position your in ok if you like him alot you would try to work it out but if your tryin 2 work it out and you say 2 your self its not worth it then dont.but the best answer is 4 you to go 2 your room and sit and evaluate your an his future together .hope i helped in any way
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deffinitely don't go out with him. he basically hinted that he was going to screw things up again. and like i always say, once you two break up you could go back out with him 100 more times, but your relationship would always end up the same way - over. it seems like he doesn't want to go out with you, so i would find another guy that cares for you. there's plenty of more guys, you just have to look for them.
hope i helped.
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Well I wouldn't rush it. I mean, he isn't even sure if he likes you enough yet. I don't see why you wouldn't deserve it. You both made mistakes. Just keep talking and hanging out. It will take time but maybe you guys can work things out. Don't rush it though.
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If this guy is not even sure about whether he'll screw things up again or not, then it's not safe to put your heart back out to him. He has self-control and everything he does is all in his power. If he's using that as an excuse, then maybe he might be digging for an excuse not to be with you.
All that I'm saying is that he's not making sense. He can choose or try his best not to mess things up. He can choose not to cheat on you again.
Besides, I think you're better off moving on and starting new with a different guy. You know for sure that he isn't as into the idea of you both together as you are, and that's not a very good start. You both will have to go through major trust issues and that can cause a lot of tension. It couldn't hurt to try if he's willing to, but it takes tough work. Let him convince himself to try things again with you-at this point if anyone should make the next move, it's him.
-TheTeenGirl
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I think that you should move on because it seems like he doesn't want a relationship. If he already told you that he might 'screw' things up, and it might now work out, I think he wants the best for you and the experience can save you the heartbreak. I think that you should just move on, and find someone better that loves you, and you love him back.
Good luck.
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