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Self Esteem
Okay. 14/F. I have really low self esteem. I can't stand the way I look. I just completely hate myself. I hate my looks, I hate my personality, I just hate everything about me! I've thought about cutting SO many times, and I was actually ready to one day, but my friend stopped me. Honestly, I feel like she's the only person who cares whether I do it or not. I guess my question is, What can I do to feel better about myself?
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well first of all dont start the cuuting cause it is a really bad habit and can lead to bad things believe i have a friend who i finally got to quit but my idea to help yourself feel good is to sit down and right things that you like about yourself and keep adding on to it untill the day you get mad then go back and look at it and that will get the bad things out of your head and the good things back in your head i hope i helped but if you ever think about cutting get with me i am willing to help...Travis
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Hi there, set yourself a goal each day. It might be to make a friend, exercise or even take a bath. Try and do something that relaxes you. It could be that your going through puberty and your bodies changing and your mood has just taken a turn. Only you can make yourself feel better. Don't hate who you are. There must be at least one good thing about you, that makes your personality great. It could be that your funny or you like listening to other people or maybe you are quite intelligent. If you try really hard and find just 1 thing thats good about you. Then act on it. Look at some of the jobs you could get for example if you've got these qualities:
1. Funny: Comedian, Clown
2. Smart: Teacher, Principal, Psychologist, Docter
3. Helpful: Counsellor, Therapist, Youth Worker
4. Skillfull: Engineer, Electrician, Plumber, Mechanic
5. Decision maker: Judge, Councillor, Politician
6. Factual: Historian, Socialogist, Lawyer
7. Creative: Chef, Artitect, Artist
8. Social: Taxi driver, Help desk, Buisness man
9. Caring: Social Worker, Nurse, Nanny
10. Protective: Soldier, Police, Security Guard
11. Hard worker: Firewoman, Farmer, Builder
12. Responsible: Manager, Accountant, Dean
Do you see what I mean? If you have a good quality then you can do something inside of that quality that you like doing. What Im trying to say is, do something that you are positive on. Focus on your good sides, not the bad. I bet you have a nice smile. So thats one good thing about your personallity. You are kind and everything positive. Your a positive person. Just don't think negative. See how that goes. Put your good qualities into action. Daniel.
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you have to look within yourself and find something that you like about yourself and work off of that. i go though this everyday. were all special in our own way find yours
Jazzy**
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Hey, hun, I feel the same way, I HAVE actually cut myself before, and it felt good at the time but soo horrible afterwards.
You have to look at yourself in a new perspective. Everyone has beauty, not everyone sees it. I bet your beautiful, I bet you truley are. Pretty much every girl has trouble seeing herself beautiful. You just have to believe me on this one, God made you beautiful, and you are beautiful, inside & out.
If you ever need to talk, my AIM is NonnaThisEmoCrap
<3 HXCPL <3
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I dont know you, but I care.
Because anyone who wants to hurt themself, thats so horrible and sad.
Sweety, maybe I suggest starting to like yourself, its really hard, but we have to realize no ones perfect, and we all envy what others have, and what others look like.
But beauty is skin deep, and also in the eye of the beholder.
What you can do to make yourself feel better is make a list of all the great things about yourself, remind yourself whats good, and dont say you cant think of any because i'm sure your friend could make a never ending list!
And try to have a positive attitude about life! It will make things better, seriously, I used to be super negative, but if you try things with a postitve attitude, it turns out mucch better!
Take care,
if you have any questions,
dont hesitate to ask me!
IM me @ KaylehMae , even if I'm away, i can get back to you, and I'm usually by the computer somwhere so I'll hear it.
Or drop something in my inbox!
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have a friend/s write down everything they like about you
write down everything you like about your self, nothing negative.
Dont ask a parent, because they are biased, make sure it is a friend you trust, s/he will be honest.
And when you get down, read it. Over and over and over. Dont tell yourself its not true, because you wrote some, and someone you will trust wrote some too.
It sounds really gay, but it helps.
Also, look at old pictures of you and friends, remeber better times, and proof you must have some good qualities. Save old birthday cards, or notes people give you. Anything that ever makes you happy, keep it in a box.
I hope that helps, and if it doesnt, ask back okay?
Also, if it really doesnt get better, im not saying you are crazy, go talk to a school guidence person, they are a great help for when you are sad. :)
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