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dream about my ex
13/f
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i dreamt about my ex about two days ago, but i just remembered it today.
it sounds pretty silly, but with what i've been through with my ex, this dream is pretty valuable to me.
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let me start be telling you about the dream, and then the questions.
here's the dream::
i was at my house, having some "quality time" with my family. i needed to go to the bathroom, but somebody was in there, and he was gonna talk a while. i couldn't hold it, so i had to go to another house. i didn't know that the person living beside us was my ex's family. i saw him outside. they were having a party. i was walking up to him when i realized that it was him. he realized it was me, and he opened up his arms and he picked me up and hugged me. i was really happy to see him. he gave me a quick kiss and asked why i was there. i smiled and laughed silly. then i said i need to use the bathroom. he smiled and said, "come on". we walked across their living room. i saw everybody staring at me. then, this girl asks an older woman who i was. the older woman said, "that's his ex-girlfriend". i didn't say anything. i was just following my ex. then, i went to the bathroom. my ex was there when i came out of the bathroom, and he kissed me again. then, we came out of their house and went to the backyard. they had a hammock and we lied down there for a while. it was quiet between us. then he said, "i'm glad you're here". i said, "me too". and we fell asleep together.
and that was the end of it.
ok.
now, the questions.
1.) why do you think i just suddenly dreamt about him? [[i haven't talked to him for almost a year now, and then suddly, i just dreams about him?! it's crazy!!!]]
2.) does this mean i still have feelings for him? [[he was my first relationship, and i would think, my 1st true love. but ever since we broke up, we haven't talked or anything. so i'm guessing this is a sign?]]
3.) what can this mean?
4.) what should i do?
now, this is what i'm thinking::
ever since i remembered this dream, i've started missing him, like how i felt the first couple of months after our break-up. i guess it's one of those you-would-never-forget-your-first-true-love feeling. but why now? i thought i was over him, but all the feelings started coming back to me whenever i remembered this dream. now i can't take my mind off of it. now i feel like i wanna see him SO BAD, because i miss him.
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You probably once had strong feelings for this guy considering the fact that he was your first love.
The feelings you developed for him at that one time you were with him are so strong that when you were reminded of him a year later-it's like your body remembers those feelings and it all just digs back up because of that dream. But this doesn't mean you aren't over him, likely you are, the feelings of you missing him and feeling happy of this dream is normal.
Dreams will always confuse you whether it's about a past time or present or a possible future dream, but don't let your dreams convince you of anything. I'm sure you are still over this Ex, it's just that a year has passed from all of this and just now you got reminded of romantic feelings with him and that just makes you shocked and confused.
There isn't anything you can do about this situation except to just kind of laugh it off or ignore it. Don't begin to convince yourself that this means something. You and him havn't talked in a long time and it should stay that way.
-TheTeenGirl
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Just because you dreamt about him doesn't mean you're not over him. Our subconscious is a powerful tool, one that we try and repress in our normal waking lives. When we're asleep, our subconscious knows no boundaries so our mind can act out anything it wants to. As for your dream, maybe you secretly hope that things had gone better, and that it had worked out. Maybe you just wish he still thinks about you and has feelings for you. Or maybe you just simply want to see him again and reclaim what was lost. You know better than anyone else what your dream could've meant.
Since he was a big part of your life at one stage, its inevitable he's going to cross your mind once in a while. Just because you don't see someone in anymore doesn't mean they're going to be out of your mind forever. You can't simply "forget" someone like that. You're right; you don't ever forget your first true love simply because they are your first and you think you'll be together forever. Of course, few people ever end up with their first loves.
Try not to look into it too much. There's a reason your relationship didn't work out in the first place. You didn't specify how long it's been, but I'm guessing it's been quite a long time. If you haven't thought about him in this time, then you have nothing to worry about. He's just come to the forefront now because of this dream, and now the "what-if" element is there. Don't dwell on it too much. It was just a dream. If you find yourself still thinking about him in a few weeks - even a months time, then maybe you need to reconsider whether you really over him or not.
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