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im the "good girl"
Out of all my friends if you were to ask them about me when were hanging out with our "whole group" guys and girls that im shy. i dont do it on purpose its just how i am i wish i wasnt like that. because all i hear about is how this friend hooked up with his friend but its never me. i mean im not into the whole hooking up thing but i mean i would if i liked the guy but im to shy to even get into that. i feel like im the good girl because when we do things i always make sure were not going to get into trouble. I bothers me all the time that im the way i am. they do know this, should i talk to like my close girl friends about it next time its just us together.. like how im always shy and dont know how to get over it. i hate it so much i dont know how to explain it. what should i do about it? anything i could do to "break out of my shell"??
p.s. my sister plays travel soccer where they travel to places obviously to play and theres this girl on her team whos brother was at a tournement this past weekend(only to one game though) and i saw him at the begining of the game and i dont know i wasnt like attracted by his looks nessisarily but like it was a feeling like "wow i want to talk to him and meet him" but because im so shy i didnt talk to him. he kinda saw me at the begining too i think but he was with his dad and went down to sit with him, but like after the game too the team was having their like "after game meeting" and he was looking like in my direction im not sure if he was really looking at me if you know what i mean but i hope he was. i dont know what to think what if wasnt looking at me i would feel like an idiot if i just went and talked to him and he had no intrest in talking to me at all. i really want to talk to him but i dont know how to not make it awkward. i know nothing about him other than his sister is on the team. they have a game tomorrow and im going to go to see if hes there but i have no idea what to do.
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Okay, first of all, being shy isn't a BAD thing. You make it sound like that. Well, it isn't. I used be shy, but I tried this technique where I put myself in somebody else's shoes and imagine what the situation would be like from their point of view. It has helped me a LOT and to this day I still do that. Try it and it might help you.
About the boy, just try talking to him once. If the guy is a jerk or acts like you're an idiot, then you'll know he isn't worth it. I think you shouldn't be down on yourself if you accidently stumble on your words or blush. Most guys think it is cute. You should just act confident and then you will feel confident.
Good luck :]
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I really think it' time to break out of your shell, because you can not saty the goody miss too shes forever! if all your friends are doing stuff I think its time you start to too! Well I dont really care about getting in trouble but like I dont want too eitherr! But like if you dont want to get in trouble its time that yu do something bad for once. I mean like if you always make sure your not gona get in trouble thats kinda rediculous..sory but like everybody once or even a million times will egt in troule uin their life time.
and about the boy..dont be shy anymore. sorry to say this but just get the nerve to talk to him, hang out with him until he really knows yu. bc he wontdo anything or say anything to yu until he really knows who yu actually are.
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Alright, here's something to try whenever you want to talk to someone but feel nervous:
Ask yourself, "What's the worst that could happen? What's the best that could happen?"
Usually the worst thing that could come out of going up to someone and talking to them is they might not find you interesting or cool and you'll feel kind of awkward. The best thing that could happen is they think you're awesome, you have a lot in common, and you get a new friend/boyfriend. The pros outweigh the cons.
If you don't want to randomly come up to someone out of the blue and say "Hey!", you could try some of these ice-breakers/conversation starters:
-"Hey, can I borrow your cellphone?"
-"Do you have the time?"
-"Nice shoes."
-"Ugh, it's so hot/cold/windy/cloudy out today."
Or anything else along those lines. It's always scary to meet someone new, so you could even try to pretend they're a close friend of yours who you just talk to every day.
I hope this helped, and good luck!!! :)
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