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School Work And A Fight With My Friend.
I need advice please.I am getting really stressed out at school about exams. i sit in my room each afternoon and all i do is worry about it, then i get so worked up then i can't study.I end up studying at the last minutem and then stay up all night.My stomach is constantly churning,i can't sleep because all i think about is how badly im going to do on the test!To make matters worse, my best mate and i had a fight last week. he started it and now he isn't talking. NOT EVEN AT SOCCER TRAINGING!i didn't go to training yesterday to avoid him, and now all my friends say the don't want me around.What should i do? where can i go for help?
Carl,Age 15
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As much as I would like to help you, I feel like you are ranting at me and want me to reassure you, not advise you.
In future it is WAY easier for a columnist to give you advice if you stick to one problem per question and include the relevant details about that problem.
But, in the hopes of being some use to you…
If you are stressing out that much, talk to the school counselor. They can give you techniques to stop that pointless obsessive thinking, or send you to someone who can. If you are feeling ill before bed there is nothing wrong with taking a Gravol or Travel Tab to settle your stomach and allow you to sleep, as long as you don’t do it every night.
If you have wronged your friends, behaved badly in anyway, apologize. It doesn’t matter if they are more wrong, or if they started it. If you weren’t perfectly and absolutely right in what you did, apologize. If you don’t think you did anything wrong you can either suck and up and just let them ignore you, or you can ask them what specifically it is they think you did wrong and then discuss it from there. Remember not all friendships are worth saving, not everyone is this world is gonna like you.
Overall, stop panicking and stop AVOIDING. Avoiding studying and soccer are making you feel worse, not better. If you never face your problems you will never ever learn to deal with them. Take a warm shower, read a good book, whatever it takes to calm you down and then deal with it. If you keep working yourself into a fit, you’ll never be able to think clearly.
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