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i like this friend of mine


Question Posted Monday May 29 2006, 2:54 am

i told one of my friends a year ago that i liked him. he told me he wasn't ready for a relationship, but i think he said that he didn't like me like that. now we are really good friends and i went over to his house the other day and he's this great guy and i wish i was with him. but it's so hard for me to think of him as just my friend. this crush is still lurking. he's going off to college in NY and i guess there isn't anything i can do, except just stay good friends, right?

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irishblondy357 answered Wednesday May 31 2006, 4:35 pm:
I think you should tell him how you really feel. You should still stay in touch like IMing each other and what not. But dont hold the truth in for too long or it will just get worse.AbBeY!!!

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Elcee answered Monday May 29 2006, 6:16 pm:
A long-distance relationship does not necessarily have to flounder but you are only friends at this stage so maybe it would be best to stay that way for now. Write to him, or email, stay in touch so that when he comes home for the holidays you are there waiting as a friend only. Don't deprive yourself of any other relationships whilst he is in NY because that would not be healthy. If this relationship turns into something more than friendship then embrace it lovingly. It will be hard if he finds someone else, but you might also find someone else too. I wish you all the best in the future.

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Sapphire_Lily answered Monday May 29 2006, 1:32 pm:
Right. I do not know how far NY is from you, but its probably best that you avoid a long distance relationship, especially if it would just be beginning as he was leaving. Stay good friends, at least that way you will still be able to be close to him (perhaps not in the way you wish, but still close).

You can never know for sure if he does or does not like you and at the moment I would advise you not to mention it again unless a) he starts it or b)you really feel his mind has changed. If he doesn't feel the same way, it could make your friendship awkward for him if it is the second time your saying it.

Him going away will be good for both of you, it will give you a chance to maybe forget your crush and move on. For him, it may, as the saying goes, make the heart grow fonder.

Good luck, I know unrequited love and all that sucks, but I promise you it will be okay eventually

Sapphire Lily xxx

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snowi answered Monday May 29 2006, 4:19 am:
Yes, you should just stay good friends. Until well he is ready for a relationship.

Snowi

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