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What should I do?
I work with this really great girl that I didn't initially have feelings for, but as I've come to know her, I can't stop thinking about her. I'm not good at picking up girl's signals, but it looks to me like she flirts with me a lot. Laughs at my jokes, smiles a lot, I'll catch her staring every now and again, but I've misread these signals before.
Plus she's got this boyfriend who's kind of clingy, emotional, neurotic and all this. They've been going out for awhile and live together, but they won't anymore starting this fall. He'll be in another city and she has said that they don't have near the chemistry they did earlier(I guess that can be said for everyone though) and that she hadn't broken up with him yet because of the way he might take it.
So I guess the question's pretty obvious. Do I take the chance and tell her that I truly care about her and potentially ruin the friendship, which is very strong? Or do I say nothing now, take no chances, and wait until the fall when they're not living together? Or just quit being a dumbass about it and move on, which is probably what will end up happening in the end anyway? Thank you for your time.
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if you like her that much, then moving on is rediculous.
it is obvious that she doesn't have strong feelings towards her boyfriend, and girls usually only tell stuff like that to there best girl friends, or somebody that they could see themself with.
tell her you like her, but don't make a move or anything.
tell her you don't want to ruin your friendship, but you can't help your feelings, and you like her. i know it sounds cheesy, but come on, who wouldn't love that!?
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i think you shouldnt get involved yet because you dont want to ruiny our friendship with her i think that you should wait until the fall and then tell her how you truly feel about her.
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Wait.
Don't get involved in this mess. Wait till she figures out all her issues and starts with a clean slate. You don't want to be a part of that old life, anyway.
Be her friend, for now. Help her through the hard times and get ready to make your move.
It seems like she likes you. However, if it seems like she only dumped him for you, take that as a warning. There's no guarantee that she won't trade you in too.
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I think that you should definetly wait until she cleans this mess up that she and this guy made together. She won't even break-up with this guy yet because she's worried about how he'll take it.
Besides, when you come out of a relationship where you were living together and was close, then you need space before you can move on with someone else. I'm not saying that this girl doesn't like you anymore than a friend, but she needs space to overcome all of these plans that she has coming in her life. When she's settled in a new home or when he moves out, give her some more time and then try getting back to the way things were.
But for now, just be supportive of her choices and what she's going through. A girl really likes a guy who will be there just as much when he's a friend, it will make her feel like you can treat her with respect while you aren't her boyfriend.
-TheTeenGirl
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you shoulds tell her how you feel.. then tell her that she should break up with him if she want.. then tell her dont be scared and go for the shot...
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