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Now that I'm under control....?
Thanks SO much to everybody who answered my last question! Now that I feel a little more confident about this whole thing, I've got yet another problem:
Should I tell my boyfriend about this? I mean I love him so much; he means way too much to me and the last thing I want to do to him is freak him out. Everytime we joke about or do that "What if..." thing, and the idea of kids come up, he always says that he never wants them. I'm guessing the whole idea of pregnancy would get him all, i don't know...wierd. I on the other hand would LOVE to have them (but NOT UNTIL IM WAY OLDER, please don't think that I'm like that!) but regardless, I don't want to send him running. But on the other hand, if something's going on shouldn't he know? Everytime we fool around now, I get this whole wave of guilt but I still want him so badly. I don't want to make this into a big deal if it's just a false alarm. I also know that this would be a lesson to the both of us about birth control and responsibility (my mom's a nurse =] ) and that "if he really loves me too, he won't freak out but guys are unpredictable. I still don't want to risk anything between us. Any advice will be greatly appreciated, thanks
kbabe
ps. I'm sorry for writing the great american novel as my questions...I tend to talk alot too =]
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Hunny im sorry to tell you but you have to tell him. In a cuple months he will notice then he will feel betrayed yeah if he does go running say he wasnt worth it! And after all he is your babies father. I didnt know that my real dad i have never met (which i still havent) I would love to meet him but he ran when he found out my mom got pregnant. I have lived for 13 yrs and he has never come in contact with me and it does kill to the heart so yeah he needs to know and if he is a really good guy then he would stay. My real dad moved to the clear end of the contry.
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I agree. Jusr used the old "3-D"
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I think you should calm down and think about what you are saying/doing. If you want to have kids in (years to come) why mention it to your boyfriend now. Wait until the years to come. If you are always saying what if i become pregnant, of course he would be scared. He is probably young like you. Its unneccasry and you will probably scare him off. Use protection!!! most important thing. Becuase in a few years time, I reckon you wont even be with him then. Thats how the world is.
Live for the time being, not five years into the future. You may hang onto him, if you stop scaring him off. Most people who have kids discuss it, and agree on it ogether. They dont have what ifs....Hope that helps.
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I don't think there is any reason to try and panic your boyfriend by telling him you think you are pregnant or that you want kids someday but not now... That dicussion can wait a bit. What you should definitely do however is talk to your boyfriend about your fear! Something like "Because we did this, I'm terrified when my period is a day late, even though I know it's normal, and I don't want to live in fear!"
You are right that unsafe sex should scare him just as much as you and that fear would teach him a lesson but he also shouldn't want you to be this unhappy either!
Protected sex is the responsibility of both of you and both of you need to know better then to give in to your urges without using protection. This fear belongs to both of you, not just you and it will probably help your boyfriend take your sexual acts a bit more seriously. The pull-out method is a terrible idea and you both need to know that, and agree to stop it.
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