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Afraid 2 Let Everyone Kno
Hi, I am a 15-year old female, that is in love with another girl. I am bi, and like my closest friends know about our relationship, but i don't want to let everyone know. We broke up because she says I am ashamed of her, but it's that I'm ashamed of my actions, but I love ha, how can I get over the fear of being classified as being "gay". please help because I want my girlfriend back
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Okay. Well the first thing you have to do is become comfortable with yourself. I know you aren't ashamed of her, but if you are ashamed of being classified as "gay", your girlfriend will take it as you are ashamed of her. Ask your girlfriend for a second chance, and through time you will become more comfortable with yourself and being classified as gay. There's nothing wrong with being gay, and even though there are some people who are against it, most people will accept you. Hope this helps.
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I think you shouldn't be ashamed of your true self. Being you can be embarrassing at times but you always get over it. If you really love this girl, then you shouldn't be ashamed. Just ask her out again and tell her you understand why she and you broke up but now it's all cool. Who knows, maybe you can have a strong relationship.
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When she says you are ashamed of her, she means you are ashamed of having her as a girlfriend. You don't have to be classified as gay, you will be classified as bi. She should know it's a hard step to take and should understand this. Perhaps you feel ashamed because you know that's not how the natural order of life is. If you're bi, then you have the option to be with guys. You should choose that option. It will make everything a lot simpler in the long run.
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It must be very difficult for you because of all the prejudice and discrimination out there for people who are homosexual and you have my sympathies. However, the best thing you can do in the face of adversity is laugh in its face.
If you really love this girl and you are attracted to women then why hide in the shadows about it? If you do this now, people will only beat you down more when they do find out. Your feelings and your actions are nothing to be ashamed of. It may not be considered conventional but this doesn't make it wrong.
Rather than hiding yourself and your relationship from everyone, let everyone see you. Those who are worth knowing will be pleased for you because you are in love - whoever that is with - and those who don't care about you aren't worth wasting your time on. So go out there, let people know that you are bisexual and proud of it. People will probably class you as being gay but the fact is, you half are, that is why it is called bisexual. So tell people. Tell them you do also think men are attractive but you are in love with another girl. From there onwards, just let word spread and when people make comments, it is normally because they are actually intrigued. It is lack of knowledge that causes prejudice. So give them answers. Don't go to lengths to flout your relationship with this girl but act as you normally would.
Please don't hide away because I'm sure it will only make you unhappy in the long run. Be who you are and be proud of that person. Most of all, don't risk losing someone you love over this.
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