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i HATE her
okay well theres this girl and im friends w/ her and all but lately shes been getting on my last nerve and she never botherd me befor just now that my best friend (whom is a guy) is like in love with her its been bugging me i mean she says shes fat and ugly and all this other crap and shes not shes like freaking perfect and i think its becuse i a little jelouse that he kinda ignores me for her but yea i dont no what to do i kinda wanna hit her. but she doesnt no any of this and im not about to tell her how i feel. so yea idk she keeps saying shit like i rub in that i went out w/ him and blah blah blah. and she even had the nerve to say im the reason they broke up and still like each other i dont no can someone help me pleaseeee
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I know that it's difficult to be in a situation like this. Perhaps there's a part of you deep down that thought because you and this guy were best friends, you would get together at some point and now she has taken that chance away from you? I could be wrong about this but it's a theory.
The situation is really very simple but the outcome is going to be tough on you. You've already said you are jealous but you need to learn to deal with it properly because at the moment it's just building up inside you. The chances are that as far as she is concerned, she IS fat and she IS ugly. Lots of attractive, thin people think that about themselves and no amount of reassurance will take those concerns away so please don't dwell on this. She isn't doing it to make you feel bad. The bottom line is that if she likes him and he likes her, there's really nothing that you can do. Perhaps you want to stop being friends with her for a time if it's this hard on you but if that's the case, you really do need to explain to her why because she will have picked up on how you feel and won't be able to understand why. Explain that you think you're just jealous and you're sorry if you haven't been pleasent to her lately but the situation is a little more difficult for you to handle than you expected.
After this, there's precious little you can do. Please try to get on with her because if this guy really likes her and you treat her badly, you will lose him too.
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sit her down private and tell her how u feel
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yeah i know what you mean. I have a friend like that. Actually, i lied. I have two friends like that. I know it sucks when you see them together talking and laughing and all that. But just try to talk to the guy if you still like him and want to date him again. And i know you dont want to tell your friend how you feel b/c your scared she'll get mad and all that other crap that goes along with having a friend that seems so frigging perfect. Just try to let on that you like him still. Or just avoid them from seeing eachother. It seems kinda mean but itll get their minds off eachother and it will make you fell better. so u win!!
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i dont blame you for sometimes wanting to hit her. i ahev a friend like yours and sometimes its so hard to deal with her. i feel like im gonna break in half. i think you should just tyr to get one-on-one time with each of them. dont hang out with both at one time. just see if you can get their minds off eachother. and remind them of what fun you are to have around and what they forgot they were missing out on. i know that your jealous - and i dont blame you. your loosing your two best firneds to eachother. its really hard to get though. and theres not really A WHOLE LOT you can do about it. im sorry. good luckk
hope this helps!! :] ♥
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