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I try to be friends with my ex.
I'm trying to be friends with my ex, and we usually get online and can talk online like friens. But every once in a while he'll flip out on me and tell me how everything in our relationship was my fault, and its my fault we're not together....when he broke up with me. WE were talking online and he says something about it, and I told him how I felt about it, and then he got all defensive. I told him I was sorry, and he's just like ohwell... he's being so lame. And he has a new girlfriend. I don't understand what his problem is.
Any advice on just how to be friends without freaking out on eachother?
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I think you should stop talking to each other for a while. And don't apologize to him. Some might have been his fault too.
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hey. that is stupid that he is telling you that the breakup was your fault. the next time he says something along those lines you should tell him that you cant contiune to be friends with him anymore if he keeps treating you like this. if he has a girlfriend right now then he should be worring about her and not with the past problems. i hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥
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Hey,
Well im glad to say I have a ton of information about this SAME situation.
Ok well I was in a relationship for 3yrs (6th-8th grade). Everything was perfect I mean beyond perfect it was like a dream. Until we both were moving, I was moving out of the area an my ex was moving out of state. So we always talked online, told each other how much we missed one another and loved one another.
I did love him very much though, I loved him enough to not talk to any other boys an just remain waiting on him, because he always told me he would find a way to come back. Until one day something told me to stop waiting on something that will probably never happen. NO idea why in this world that lightbulb in my head turned on but it did. So I decided to go off an do stuff for once, Hanging out with my friends an etc.
One night though, everything changed because I met this boy who I thought was amazingly perfect I mean god he was cute southern boy with like a big truck an everything. We met my first time ever mudding cause my friends an I went muddin with him. Although I didnt wanna get into anything with him at the time because he had a gf whitch happened to be out of town an I respected the situation he was in, But little did I know they were on the verge of breaking up because she had been cheating on him for a while, an yeah.
So then this yr when school started I seen him. And man did he look good, but I couldnt talk to him because I wasnt sure if it was right. As the month went by well first month of school I would say, sports began. I decided to run cross country an um yeah we started talking an eventually hooke d up!!
So heres where it all started, my ex got online one day. He seen I had an away message telling where I was an that I was with another boy or w/e. He then flipped out on me telling me I wasnt anything to him, he never loved me, then the next day tryed to make up with me, thenn went back to arguing about the same b/s trying to make me feel guilty for moving on! Believe me, being friends with an ex takes PATIENCE alot because if you dont have patience then you dont reall have anything.
And I have learned to not even IM him, dont ask him about any new girls in his life, or any new ppl he has met because boys tend to blow it up in your face belive me I have heard everything from my ex. Now we are like friends but probably wont be as good/close as we were. But I guess its for the best, I mean I cant argue with it because I would rather just keep everything calm without arguing instead of arguing about every little thing an what mistakes we both made!!
ANYWAY sorry for my long long story, hope I helped but if you would like my screenname for aol/aim is OHILOVETRAVIS so IM me if you need any advice!! Cause im here for you if you need it!
-Stephanie-
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Tell him to forget about the past and nothing can change what happened. Tell him you don't like him getting angry at you and flipping out on you. Make sure you do it nicely though, so he won't think you are giving him an attitude. You should also tell him that if he has a new girlfriend he shouldn't worry about you anymore that way, you guys are friends, you don't need to be arguing about that stuff anymore.
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