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Confront him about a slip?
17/f. Recently I found out that my boyfriend had kissed his best friend about 2 months ago. Found out from a source other than him. As far as I know, it was a quick thing that he regretted afterwards, a slip. I'm not really mad that it happened, but I'm kind of hurt that my boyfriend wouldn't tell me, we're always very open with eachother about everything and I've told him before that he can tell me things like that without me being irrational. I'm wondering if you think I should ask him about it? He's never given me a reason not to trust him before, and I'm pretty sure I know why/how it happened, I just don't know whether to bring it up with him.
Thanks :)
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If he is your boyfriend then plain and simple he was wrong. You ahve every right to ask about this.
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He may be so embarrassed by this kiss that he may feel humiliated by admitting to you that it had happened. Occasionally someone may do something that for them is so embarrassing that even thinking about it makes them cringe. I wouldn't let it worry you that he has not told you this secret and accept that one day he may feel brave enough to say. Whatever happens don't ever throw it in his face as it could cause a lot of heartache. You sound like a very mature 17 year old and he is very lucky to have you. Good luck.
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Hmm, tough one. Some people might say to talk to him so he realizes it's not going to slide and so he knows he did something wrong but you won't totally flip over it, yet, if it's in the past, it might not be worth getting in a big fight over. If you really want an honest relationship I would bring it up though by saying, "Hey, I heard ------ through the grapevine and I was wondering if it was true or not. I won't be mad I'm just a little hurt that you didn't tell me before."
much ♥
Christina
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Since you do know, and seem to be rational about it, I think it could be a good idea to bring it up.
It could be beneficial in a couple of ways. He will realize that he can talk to you without things getting out of control. He will realize you trust him.
I think a good way to bring it up would be just as you did it here. Tell him you heard through the grapevine about his slip up. Tell him you realize it meant nothing but that you were a little hurt he didn't feel he could bring it up.
Then let him talk.
Good luck with whatever you decide is best for you. :)
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