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hes spreading rumors
i was talking to a friend online and i said that one of my friends bugs me and that she really isnt one of my friends and he told her i know it was wrong to say but i meant it and i told her i meant it and now her and that guy are spreading rumors about me and all her friends are coming up to me saying to talk about people! even tho im not i came out and said yea i dont like you its not like im lying and i blocked her on aim and him but now hes threatening to tell the guy i like i had sex and i didnt b/c thats not what i do hes trying to blackmail me and threaten me his parents know because my sister called and told his sister whats going on. he wont stop and she wont stop influencing people. i feel so horrible about myself i just feel like if i had a gun id totally use it what can i do to stop this? do i need to get a counselor involved? or should i just let it blow over since school is almost out? thanks!
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Ok, first of all that guy friend of yours needs to stop. So...go up to him and tell him,say," ok, we may not be the best of friends right now, but i wanted to ask you if you will please stop." If he does not stop by the next day, tell him (this is not bad either),say," Hey, i have asked once before if you would please stop, and you didn't. So here are your answer choices: A. You stop right now, B. you stop know or i will start rumors about you, but don't really, just threaten him, or scare him, or C. you stop now, and i will forgive you, we can be friends again, and will pretend this never happened." Now, i hope this answered your question, and i am sorry you are going through this. If you ever need advice or have a question, ask me! Bye
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Well, I want you to think about what caused this. You told a friend that you didn't like another friend because she is annoying and isn't considered one of your friends anyway.
Why would you tell this guy friend who was friends with this girl that information? It's not something you should even have to think about. If you tell someone that you don't like a certain person and they are friends with that certain person, then it's going to get to that certain person, no doubt about it.
You made a really huge mistake by even telling this guy that you didn't like this friend. It was not a smart thing to do. I'm not saying that these two 'friends' had a right to spread rumors and talk about you, because they definetly shouldn't have. But, you weren't being a great friend either. It sounds to me like you were pretending to be this girl's friend but just talked about how annoying she was to other people.
Listen, theres no doubt in my mind that you feel bad for what you said and what's going on. I know that you are a good person and you don't deserve to be dead over this and you shouldn't have to desire to die. You can make things better for yourself and forgive yourself. Everything won't go back to the way it was, but it can be better again.
I think since you are feeling deeply depressed about these problems, you need to talk to yor family or your school counselor about what happened and tell everything that you did even if it's wrong. Don't make everything look like it's their fault. Just say that you made a mistake and you need some help on how to deal with it. There isn't a whole lot you can expect when seeing a counselor, you just go in and they'll ask you why you are here and you just explain to them how you've felt and everything that's bothering you in school.
I hope that everything works out better for you
-TheTeenGirl
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