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My friends dont trust me at all. they wont let me know anything cause they're like "youll just go off and tell it" and i dont! And i never had! Ive tried telling them i dont tell but they never trust me. How can i Let me trust me again.
--Not a secret teller
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Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Trust you again? AKA, once they trusted you, but now they don't.
Stop gossiping so much. Just because someone doesn't tell specific personal things doesn't mean they're not a shit talker, which I suspect you are.
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I'd say it's best not to bug them too much about it. The more you push them to tell you things, the less likely they are to tell you. They'll just get annoyed. I think you should prove you're trustworthy by not telling anyone things about them. Even if it's not things that they tell you; I mean just things in general. Don't be catty or gossipy about your friends. If you haven't told anyone anything they've told you in private, you might have stepped on some toes by saying things that you should know they wouldn't want other people to know, even if they didn't directly say 'don't tell anyone'.
When they see that you're not doing anything like that, they will be more likely to open up and tell you things. When they do open up and tell you secrets, literally tell no one. If you really haven't been doing anything catty and they still won't tell you things in the future, it's most likely a maturity issue. Once people grow up a little bit, they don't broadcast that they have a secret that you're not allowed to know. If they don't want anyone to know, they just keep it to themselves. If you're not doing anything wrong and they keep acting like that, it's time to get better friends.
In the meantime, try to talk to them and figure out why they think you can't be trusted with a secret. They might be able to shed some light as to why they feel you can't be trusted with personal issues.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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