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okay i have this x- friend. we were friends for about a year and then all of a sudden she started getting weird. like she said she was bi and then said she was joking, but i dont think she was. and shes really creepy to be around, like she got a weird haircut, but i dont wanna talk to her. am i wrong?
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Eh. I sort of went through this with my friends. I'm bisexual and I came out in 7th grade and my friends were wierd because they thought that I had crushes on them.. then we all matured and I told them last year (10th grade year) & noone even cared. I still ahve all my friends that I've had for years and everything is great. I dont think that you should not be her friend just because of her sexuality. If she has totally changed though than thats different. If you dont like her as a person anymore in general (not just her sexuality) than you're not in the wrong. Some friends just grow apart, and theres nothing anyone can do to fix it. So basically what I'm trying to say is.. if I were in the position, I wouldnt stop being friends with someone because I disagreed with their views or sexuality or anything of that nature. I'm friends with people because I can trust them, be myself around them & have fun with them. As long as they treat me good, then it doesnt matter.
Make sure if your not going to be her friend, its for the right reasons, not the wrong ones.
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You are not wrong if you don't want to be friends with her because she has changed her personality... It would be wrong if you didn't want to be her friend because of her appearance. I bet she is still the same person you've known, just trying things out. It's probably a stage and if this friendship means anything to you, I wouldn't give up on it just like that. Wait a while to see if she goes back to her same old self, you never know it could only last a week. I have a girl on my soccer team that is bi, she is really nice and funny. Give your friend a chance, I bet the only thing that's changed is her image. She is still probably really fun to be around.
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hey. i hope you arent talking about me because my nickname is X. hah ;) i am NOT bi though. your friend is probally going through a stage in her life. this may be strange for her too. you dont have to be friends with her if you dont want to, no one is forcing you to. if you dont feel comfortable around her, then dont be around her. hope everything turns out okay! hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥
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Sounds to me as though she wasn't really joking. She's obviously going through something at the moment and having a little trouble with it. When she told you she was bi, you probably reacted in a way that scared her so she tried to pull it off as a joke, so that you wouldn't think she really was.
You're not really wrong and I can understand why you would feel uncomfortable but it sounds as though she could really use a friend right now. If she is bi, she's going to be feeling pretty lonely and scared because growing up like that in the world we have today opens her to a lot of prejudice.
I know you feel awkward but try talking to her. Just sit her down and say "You know when you sai you were bi and then said you were joking? Between you and me....were you serious?" If she says yes then just let her know that you won't tell anyone. You can tell her that it makes you feel a little uncomfortable, because she probably already realises this but try to be there for her. You don't have to help her look girlfriends or anything, but support her as best you can. Once she knows she doesn't have to keep it a secret and that people will accept her for who she really is, you should see her behaviour start to calm down a little.
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people change often enpugh to say the least my friend. she's probably going through some phase in her life of confusion. Even if you guys arnt getting along the fact remains that you were once friends, companions, there was probably a moment once am i right? You can always say say when you're walking in the halls or an occasional wave. People, like the ocean changes its tides time after time. Hope this helps
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People can change for no apparent reason. But whether you want to accept her or not, you should always still be at the very least civil to each other, after all, you were friends, right?
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