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boyfriend rooming w/ his ex.
i'm female, 17, and a junior in high school. last march, a guy, (who is 21 and doesn't go 2 school), i wrk w/finally broke up w/his girlfriend of 2 years. he told me in january he really liked me and there'd been a mutual attraction since then. the problem is, that, although they broke up, they still live together in a 1 room apartment (he sleeps on the couch) b/c he cannot financially afford to live on his own and he currently drives his ex's car. she has reciently threatened 2 move out which would force him 2 move back to WA. she's agreed to stay but insists that i don't see him 4 a while. i didn't know her previously and there is pretty much no chance of her feeling anything but hostility towards me. i don't want to break up w/him but i dont like the idea of his ex controlling our relationship and i know there's nothing i can say to her that will change her mind. what do i do?
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He lives with his ex? Seriously? Girl, get out now before you hurt yourself.
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first if you dont trust him its over rught there but if you want to stay with him i would tell him how you feel and i would talk 2 her to but with no yelling just tell him how you feel and i would tell your boyfriend to tell her that she cant controll you guys if he really likes you hell do it for you
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You need to talk this over with your boyfriend and lay down your point of view on the matter. Obviously he had a relationship with this girl for a long time, so it would be insensitive for him to flaunt your relationship in front of her. If this isn't what is going on at all then he needs to realise that his obligations to her now are solely as a roommate and that she is not part of his new relationship. If he can't realise that then you may be better off without him.
Tell him that you feel concerned she is getting away with controlling the situation and that although you appreciate she is upset, you can't just sit and let her get away with controlling everything the way she is. His obligation now is to you and he needs to stop pandering to her. Let him know this and there should be a change in attitude. If there isn't, you may have to get rid of him because in the long run, it's not going to do your relationship any good.
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