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Harder Issues Of My Teen Pregnancy
Talk About Teenage Drama ! Here's my problem .. i've always been right on time for my period, and it's now been about two weeks since i missed it. I'm only 16 and have been in D.S.S since i was 12. I've gotten into plenty of trouble in the home i'm staying at ( been there 3 years. They actually took guardianship of me ). Now I love my boyfriend very much and i think if i am pregnant then we'd be as ready as we could be but i have a big worry in my head! if i am in fact pregnant, i'm pretty sure i would be kicked out of my house and i don't want to be pregnant in a foster home. So here is my fill of questions:
Would D.S.S take my baby?? Would it be a possiblity to live with my boyfriend and his parents? would they try to keep me away from the father of my child?
Well That's most of it, someone please get back to me .. i'm going nuts =(
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I'm not sure about the laws in your state, but here in Missouri I was emancipated as soon as I got pregnant. I was 15. I was my own guardian from that point on. I actually got married which is what saved my butt from juvenile (long story). Moving in with your boyfriend's parents is probably a better idea than staying in foster care - because they will try and take your baby if you have him/her and are living in a foster care home. Make sure you get excellent prenatal care if you are pregnant. Don't miss any appointments because they can use that against you if they do decide to try and take your baby. Get a job if possible, and make sure your boyfriend has a job. Make the environment you are living in as clean and stable as possible. Stay in school or take GED classes. Don't drop out completely. Good luck. Don't worry too much take a pregnancy test and if you are pregnant, take it from there.
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I'm sorry you are in a situation where you are filled with such worry, I really do understand. It is quite possible DSS could take your baby and place it in foster care, or try to convince you to give him/her up for adoption. Do not sign any papers for anything unless it is court ordered by the judge.
One thing that is on your side right now is the law. The baby's father has legal rights. I hope that he has not been in any trouble, and would look favorable to the court. If he is not able to provide for an infant right now, in most states family is preferred for placement. So next in line would be his parents or your guardian foster parents (provided they agree to help you).
If you and the baby's father voluntarily go to parenting classes, get a good job and do everything that they would see as favorable, perhaps even if they did take the baby initially they would agree to give him/her back when you are ready.
Before you speak to your foster parents, or DSS, contact an attorney. Perhaps you have one assigned to you already--one that does pro-bono or indigent work as you most likely have no income right now. Do a search for free legal services in your state.
If you are convinced that you want to keep and raise your baby, be persistant and dedicated to doing so. Be polite but firm in your convictions and dealings with DSS. Do not get in any more trouble and prove that you are changing for the better. It's going to be very hard, because dealing with the system is often unfair, but never give up!
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honestly i ahve no idea about all of those questions..so before you panic i suggest you make sure you really are pregnant before you worry about all the effects of it. i hope everything works out for you! <3
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Lets take another look at this. You already know that at 16 years old the family cannot kick you out. They have to turn you back over to the Children services or may risk getting themselves in trouble. But you have to ask yourself what you want. Quit the What-if's. Take each question you've given yourself and find the answer for that question before going on to the next. Call the DDS, anonymously if necessary, and ask these questions before you decide on your next move. You didn't say how old the boyfriend was, therefore I have to assume he is close to the same as as you. If so, is he willing to become a father? Is his family ready for him to take on this responsibility and will help? These are only a few questions you need to be finding answers for, since you know more of the facts than any readers can assume to guess at and answer.
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im not to sure about dss question , i think that they would let you keep your baby if you get a plan worked out so the baby would have a good life, yes if your parents sign a paper saying that they give complet costody of you to your boyfriends parents than it will be possible for you to live with your boyfriend so that your baby would have a father to grow up with. i hope i helped!!! rate me please!! and tell me how everything goes !! :D
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