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I love and believe in God and have my whole life. I come from a religious family but recently it's been really hard to believe. In the past month, I've lost my Aunt and my best friend's Dad to cancer.
My Aunt was just about the best person I've ever met. Honestly, sometimes I can't stand my extended family but she was different. She was always sweet, energetic (when she wasn't in the hospital) and optimistic.
My dad is always working so I almost never get to see him except on Sundays. My best friend and her family live next door so I was always around them and her father. He was such a great man and acted like a great father figure to me considering I don't have any older brothers and my dad is always working or busy with clients.
It's not fair that they get sick and die when there are murderers and such running around everywhere. It's not fair that God does this to me, my family, and my friend's family. My Aunt and her dad were great people and it's not fair that God takes them from us like that. I want to still believe that it all happens for a reason and that God loves me, and he know what he's doing, but I can't. I don't know what to do.
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God is real. Trust me on this. I lost my father to cancer, my house to herrican Katrina, my love life stinks, and my friends are all mad at me. All i do it pray. Hes there.
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There is a lot that could be said but I feel this might be the most helpful for you at this time.
It is natural when we lose something that is important to us to be angry with something and figure out reasons why. When going through the grieving process, take God out of the equation. You can reflect on your belief at another time. Your faith and spirituality should not be based upon someone else's life. It's okay to allow yourself to mourn what was important to you. Honor their lives by honoring yours and the process. Take in all that they offered to you while they were alive and pay it forward that is how their legacy will live on. When you try to comprehend with the mind why things happen on a universal level, we will wind up getting stuck in confusion. I do know this much...their lives here on Earth was only the beginning...they emerged from their cocoons.
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look i have never seen god in my life but i do know that god isn't doing anything to you. or at least he's not meaning to. it is right that every thing happens for a reason. see it was there time to go. there time to finaly meet god. and i promise you that they dont want you to cry or get mad about them being gone. trust me they are sooo happy rigt now. but i guess noone can really understand untill they die, but please do not turn you back on god.
your in my prayers.
sincerly, taylor
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First, I wanted to say that you have my condolences. We get used to people being a part of our earthly lives, and when they aren't here anymore, it can leave a gap that's tough to deal with.
The worst is when someone dies unsaved... They refused to accept Christ as their savior, even to the end. Those people I truly mourn.
As far as "why" sometimes "good" people die and "bad" people live... Only God knows the truth... But I can offer some of my own thoughts on the subject.
First and foremost, I believe God wants us all to have eternal life with Him. He knows that what really matters in the scheme of things, is where we will be spending eternity. Our few short years on this earth are nothing compared to eternity. He has our best interests at heart.
It's harder for us to see the big eternal picture because we haven't experienced heaven yet, so far our only personal experiences are on this earth. And this life is right here in our face, so it can be hard sometimes to see past all the worldly things that are thrown at us constantly, to distract us from what really matters.
Maybe sometimes it's important for people to leave this earth at a certain time. As long as they will live with God in Paradise for eternity, that's the most important thing.
And the murderers who are still running around alive? They still have a chance to repent. As long as they are alive, they have a chance to realize their sins and repent and turn to Christ. It's the people who are "lost" who need the time on this earth the most... Every minute more they live, is another minute they have to repent and live for eternity.
I know it's tempting to look down on murderers as being worse that us because WE never killed anybody, but the Bible says that all sins are equal. Sin is sin, and if we are guilty of one we are guilty of all of them. And we have all sinned in some way.
None of us are worthy of eternity on our own merit, every single one of us needs the opportunity to repent that Christ gave to us. So that murderer deserves a chance to repent, just as much as anybody else. And to say that we don't believe that murderer should receive forgiveness, is to say that we ourselves shouldn't receive forgiveness. I'm not going to say that. I need that forgiveness.
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On a different note; I kind of look at things in a funny sort of way, sometimes. Sometimes I look at our earthly bodies like "loaner" vehicles. God "loaned" me this vehicle to use on Earth until I either crash it beyond repair, or it breaks down on it's own, for whatever reason. But it's just a loaner. A temporary thing.
Based on how we do with our loaner vehicle, that determines if God feels we are up to having an eternal vehicle that never breaks down, and is always brand new.
Another way I sometimes look at it is that life is like an employee training period. We're given the manual(The Bible), and told to do our best. Though it seems like we are unsupervised and can goof off and not get in trouble for it, there are actually "cameras" everywhere and the Boss knows exactly how well we are or aren't doing.
Then if we prove that we can be trusted to follow the manual as best we can, even when we think the Boss isn't looking, once the training period is finished, we can move over to a permanent position... Eternal, even. Those who wasted their opportunity get "fired".
So in other words, "death" to a Christian is just a change. A change for the better. No more pain, no more sorrow, no more worries. Eternity in Paradise. Not something to be mourned.
The death of the unsaved? That's something to be mourned.
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These feelings are very, very natural especially because of what you're going through. This is something that you should talk to your minister about. None of us on Advicenators are religious experts. Most questions involving religion on this site will get a lot of answers telling you that God doesn't exist and such, which isn't going to help your faith at all. Then, most of the other answers are either very cliche, or it's obvious that the person doesn't have any idea what they're talking about. Everyone goes through times like these at some point in their lives and many people actually become closer to God through them. Talking to your minister about it will help a lot. Your minister knows your family and knows you. He/she will be able to explain things to you in the correct way. I am very sorry for your losses and I know that you can get through this. Good luck.
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I have to admit I'm not religious but looking at it from your perspective, I can see exactly why you would begin to question things like this.
Truth is, most religious persons question their faith when going through something like you are right now. The fact is that perhaps it isn't God that's doing it to you. Perhaps it's God that is giving you, your family and your friend's family the stregth to get through this difficult time.
I know that what happened to your Aunt and your friend's Dad is awful but sometimes it's just our time to die and when it's time for us to go, in whatever way that is, there's no choice but to go. It hurts the people we leave behind but ultimately, it is God that has taken them to Heaven and away from their pain and suffering.
Try not to question your faith too deeply at the moment because there is a reason for everything and even though I'm not religious, even I believe that. Try to be there for your family and for your friend. Cry when they cry and support them when needed and remember that God will help you through it.
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here's my best advice for this situation,
i think the same thing as you but if it makes you feel any better about this, remember that they're lucky to have met god and they're in a much better place now.. and its not that god didnt want you to be happy but he probably loved your aunt and best friend's dad and wanted them to come home to him
idk but i hope that helped
and i really hope you feel better
- allie
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