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Cutting, bulimia, pill popping
I am now 16. When i was in 7th grade i started cutting my wrists....in 9th grade a was "an alcoholic" after i got over drinking i started taking pills...and this year...i started vomitting after every meal. I need help i know...but how do i get it and where...my sister is 17 and pregnant and just recently left home to her 38 yr. old bf "she ran away" my mom is so carring....she doesnt know i do this and it would kill her if i told her because she is under so much stress...i dont have many close friends because i have a bf and i spend all my available time with him.....he doesnt know either i alwayz wear long sleeved shirts and i always say i have to pee after i get done eating...now it is such a habbit that when i eat"if i eat till im full" it starts comming up on its own and i cant control it...its too late...plz someone tell me what to do????
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I have friends who have been through the same kinf of things you have wrote about so i understand what you ae going through.
First of all, and i dont want you to take this the wrong way, but deep down you are despertly in need of attention. That is not a bad thing. Everyone wants to be noticed and to have some attention so its not selfish. However, you need to tell your mum. I know its hard and i know you would do anything to stop her from getting hurt but she will feel even more hurt when she finds out, and trust me, i mean when not if. Your mum will want to know how you are feeling and want to help you, you are her daughter and probably the most precious thing in the world in her eyes so you must tell her. She may be upset but she will be glad that you can trust her and you are seeking her help. Let her know that you realise you need to get medical help and know that your behaviour is extremely harmful. Without your mum, your just going to get worse.
Secondly, from hearing f your eating habits, you seem to have an eating disorder and i hope to god you dont feel you are fat or are not in control because you are not fat and you are in control. I have friends who are annorexic and i know the struggle they have been through. You need to go to your doctor, with your mum to support you, and explain your problems. He/she will understand and can help you recover.
Thridly, you are seriously putting yourself in harmsway by your drug abuse, and thats what it is. DRUG ABUSE. you could easily have an overdose and die and nobody wants that, especially not your boyfriend or your mother so please, get help! you can talk to psychiatrists online if there is no way at all you can get help near you but you must try.
To stop vomiting automatically, try not to binge eat, just eat healthy amounts. You need to tell your friends and your boyfriend and let them know that you vomit after meals. That way, they can try and help you resist vomiting. If you continue, you will loose alot of weight and become painfully thin, trust me, i know how it feels. You could die.
Nobody would want you to put yourself through the agony you have over the years and you need to tell those who you love and who love you so they can give you support. Visit your GP and dont give up trying to get help!
Also, i think that the theory that you have an addictive personality may be true. And it is most probable that you suffer from depression.
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I desperatly urge you to get help and please tell your mum and others close to you! Take care.
hope i helped
kerry x
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Hi,
You may think that you have a lot of issues to deal with, but I think it can be summed up into one. You seem to have an addictive personality. You give up one addiction and destructive behavior for another. This can be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain, and can be helped with medication and therapy combined. I recommend that no matter how hard your Mom will take it, you need to tell her. Tell her you are willing to get help and work to overcome your problem.
Hopefully there is professional help available in a nearby town. At the very least, a 12 step program like AA may help you overcome your addicitions--even though your addiction at the moment is not alcohol, most programs operate on the same priniciple. It's completely confidential and they can't tell anyone that you are going to the meetings. If you have to lie to get there, fine...the important part is that you get help in one form or another before it ruins your life forever.
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This sounds a lot like a friend of mine but she's 14, To get good help you should confront your mom which wouldn't be easy to do of course. But tell her you need professional help if your willing to get that, though you live in a small town they could send you to one somewhere. For getting the scars gone, go buy some of the "Kid's scar remover." It may help a little at least.
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You definetly need to put an end to this lifestyle you are living. This is a lot to read,but please read it all, trust me it won't be a waste of your time.
I know that you don't want to tell your mom because she's under a lot of stress. But listen, you are her daughter, the one that she brought into this world and she cares about you so much, and I think it would kill her more if you never tried to ask her for help. The first big step to getting help is admitting to what you've been doing and asking for help.
The thought of telling anyone probably terrifies you and it should. You should feel very afraid to let anyone know about this because it's shocking and bad news.
But there is good news in this situation, You can get help. You aren't mentally going crazy, you aren't messed up, you are depressed and it can be helped if you would confess these things to your mom. Yes, she would be very upset and frightened, but she will be relieved that you confided in her about this and asked her for help. If you were your mother, you would want your daughter to come to you for this problem, wouldn't you?
Just slow everything down for a second. Don't think about cutting, bulimia, taking pills, or being depressed. Close your eyes and get relaxed for just one second and think of everything you want in life. A goal you've been meaning to reach, a dream you wish to live someday, a general thing you want to happen in your life. Let yourself know that if you continye this lifestyle of cutting, bulimia and taking pills, you won't live that goal or dream happily. Your life only has more bad and depression to come if you continue to live this problem and not ask for help.
A happy and healthy person has happiness in store for them in their lives. But people who were depressed and who overcame cutting, or anorexia or any of that, they are stronger and have a lot of happiness in store for their lives too. If you put everything on the table to your mom and got help, I promise you that you will be doing so much more than getting rid of these problems. You will be making yourself happier, and making more positive choices to live your life and deal with your problems. You will feel like you can take on anything that seems hard and scary.
And the best part is that you won't have to worry about finding a clean long-sleeved shirt everyday. You won't have to worry about what excuse you have to make in order to take too many pills. You won't have to worry about whether you might have to explain that you have to use the bathroom after every meal. You won't have to hide yourself anymore.
You can tell your mom in two ways that could work best for you, either in person (I prefer), or a letter explaining what's going on. Something like this:
Mom,
There are a few things that I have to confess because it's damaging my life and getting in the way of my happiness. I started cutting when I was in the 7th grade and after that everything went downhill. I started drinking, and now I've been throwing up after every meal and taking pills. I really can't find a reason for all of this (Unless you really can), but I know that I am depressed and I need your help. I know you are probably really hurt and shocked, but thats why I need you, I'm shocked at myself too and I need to get help.
Or something like that. If you need any help concerning this problem, please don't hesistate to send me something in my inbox for further help.
-TheTeenGirl
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hey, damn you need major help. let people know that you have problems so that they can help you! dont hide it. get therapy and concilling. cait♥
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