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my mother is a jerk.
hi....im 15/f...
i live with my dad and my step mom. i go to see my mother once a month...if im even lucky, somtimes once every 3 months...but lately ive bean feeling like my mom doesnt love me and more.
last time i saw her i got 2 stay for 2 days only, when i was supposed to stay for 4 days. she took me and my brother home early because she wanted to have sex with her boyfriend that just got out of jail that morning. ive already talked to her about it but she didnt want to listen to me...she just yelled at me instead. saying thay if i loved her i would let her have sex every day.....what should i do? shes never bean there for me at all in my life...when ever i need something for school or when i need clothes she tells me to call my grandma because she doesnt have any money. she calls me names like stupid b****, dumb a** h*, jack a***, little slut, ext. so what should i do about it?
thank you,
*~*baby*~*
sorry its long~
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You're right. Your mom is acting like a jerk.
The sad thing is that you can't do a whole lot about this except to reach out to your grandma or dad or another parent for support that you need from your mom. I know that it really hurts to feel unloved by your mom, but that isn't the truth. She is neglecting and abandoning you, not hating you or unloving you.
There are a lot of young people that have to deal with parents who are like this, and it's hard to cope with, but what really matters in the end is that you keep going in your life and don't let yourself go down a wrong path in life. When you can't find love and support from your parents, find it from a school counselor, or a teacher, or maybe even a family friend.
Let me put it to you this way. It's hard to be a responsible mom. A mom who cooks and feeds her children every night, does the housework everyday, keep a good marriage going with her husband. Being a mom is a hard job, but that's definetly no excuse for what your mom is doing. My point is that your mom is taking the easy way out of life. She finds it easier to just yell and scream at you and get you away from her when you get upset about something. Mom's usually deal with how their children feel, and that's the hard way of being a mom. Your mom didn't give birth to you and decide that she was going to scream at you and your brother. She probably thought it would be easy to take care of kids, but it's not. It's only easier to neglect them and shut them out when they don't want to hear them.
So what I'm saying is that your mom is really messing up with you and your brother. She's causing you a lot of pain she will probably never know. If I think she had a clue of the pain she's causing, she would feel horrible. I just want you to know that there are a lot of kids who have gone through life without a good mother, or father, and that doesn't mean that they can't turn out to be happy in their lives later on.
-TheTeenGirl
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I would hope that if she didn't see you any more often than that, you would be top priority. I'm truly sorry that isn't the case for you.
Sounds to me as if she is a bit selfish. I guess you will have to learn to accept her for what she is. A mom when its convenient. I would bet she has other problems as well that are probably making her that way.
See her when you can. Gotta love her she is your mom. But you don't have to like her ways. Ask her before you go if she is going to have time for you. If she pitches a fit of name calling or can't give you an answer then don't visit her.
The sad thing is one of these days when you are an adult, she is going to wish she had spent more time with you. Then it will be to late. She will have missed your growing up.
You are right though to feel cheated out of her time. There isn't much you can do about it unless you just don't visit her and save yourself the aggravation. Talk to your dad about it too. He may have some good ideas. :)
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