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Co-worker says "Hi" all day long!
I need advice on how to deal with a co-worker. She's a VERY nice lady, she has strange little quirks about her. Most of them I can deal with.
However, one quirk that drives me (and the rest of the office coincidentally) absolutely bonkers is her need to say "Hi!" all day long. I get the brunt of it, sometimes between 3-15 times a day. I sit next to her and share a printer with her, so a lot of the time, she passes by she says it. I've been subtle, I've been joking about it. I've even replied with "Hello AGAIN" and once told her "You've already said that." She responded with a laugh and said "I know. It's a habit." I don't want to hurt her feelings because she is a nice girl, almost fragile, but she needs to be told it's annoying as #$%@. She says it while I'm talking on the phone sometimes, she says it while I'm transcribing and I've even got earphones on. I ignore her sometimes, but some times she doesn't go AWAY!
PLEASE, any advice on how to approach this in a NICE way? HELP ME! I'm slowly going insane!!!!
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I have tried being friendly back to her, I have tried making a joke out of it and even tried saying "HI" to her first. It just seems to make her happier and me annoyed with myself for doing it. I'm not a glum person, I'm always upbeat and positive at work. I'm VERY laid back and have dealt with this for over a year and a half. Other people in the office think it's annoying too.
Perhaps I should take the issue up with the HR supervisor but how lame does that sound? "I need to talk to you about someone saying "HI" all day". LOL. It makes ME laugh out loud thinking about it. But the issue needs to be addressed for sure.
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I'm sorry, but your post has me laughing. You know, sometimes I can't handle the nicey nice "good morning sunshine" people. You could always respond with sarcastic remarks until she gets the idea she is annoying you.
When she says "Hi" you say "good-bye" or "No, not yet" or "low" or "water" "elevation" "note" basically anything that would go with the word "high"...if she asks "What did you say that for" say...Why did you say "Hi" AGAIN?
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Maybe I'm weird, but if this were me, I'd probably try to give her a taste of her own medicine, while making a little game of it.
Whenever I saw her I would try to say "Hi!" before she did.
If she didn't see me coming, I would tap her on the shoulder, and when she turned, say "Hi!" and smile really big and walk off (or whatever else I was headed to do). Just don't be mean-spirited about it, be smiling and cheerful.
If you can't beat 'em, join 'em. ;-)
But seriously, maybe it will make her more self-conscious about it when she sees someone else doing the same thing she does... Maybe she will see how silly it is when she can see it from the other perspective. Or maybe she will just be embarrassed at someone mocking her and she'll make a better effort to quit.
But like I said, maybe I'm weird. ;-)
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I think you've tried nice. You've let her know its annoying. Since she did admit to you that its a habit, I don't think you should feel obligated to reply more than once in a day. If she thinks you're upset with her, tell her in a serious tone that you'd really appreciate it if she would stop saying "Hi" all day long. There's no need to be hateful, but don't try to be gentle by laughing, or joking about it anymore. It'll probably hurt her feelings, but if you want the hi's to stop, someone has to step up. Why not you? You'll be everyone's hero! She'll more than likely retract from you for a few days, but she can't be mad, because you weren't mean about it. She'll get over it. And she'll stop saying "hi."
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